First date: do’s and don'ts
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First date: do’s and don’ts

A first date is so exciting it can give you butterflies in the tummy! Where should you go, what should you wear, what should you say, what should you not say… All these worries can drive you crazy. So here’s our collection of do’s and don’ts to help you. Good luck!

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  • Find the right place

    Do your homework on what’s a good place for your first date. Keep in mind that the venue can really set the mood of the date. Keep a balance – think of something that’s not too steamy, but also not too unromantic. The spot should let you both have a comfortable, open conversation.

  • Kill the nerves

    As hard as it may seem, try to keep calm. As soon as you hear your heart racing, pause, and take a few deep breaths. Relax. It’s only a date, not the ultimate test of life. Remember that ultimately, it’s about having fun together.

  • Listen and talk

    Be attentive to your date. Converse. Ask questions. Be curious about their lives. And listen. Turn off your phone and put the rest of your life on hold.

  • Be flirtatious

    Be subtle but don’t hold back from flirting! It’s an important aspect of attraction. If you find them hot, let them know. Compliment them. But all in moderation.

  • Be late

    Don’t show up late on your first date. Once you’ve fixed up the date and time, look up how long it would takes to get to the venue. Count in the traffic and every other factor that could delay you. Don’t give them the slightest chance to think that they’ve been stood up.

  • Lie

    Don’t be dishonest. Don’t tell them you’re a millionaire if you aren’t. First dates are often a start to something special and lasting. If you lie, you’d lay the wrong foundation and before you know it’s too late to repair.

  • Get too drunk

    Don’t drink too much on your first date. Too much alcohol can disorient you. You might say and do things that you later regret. Better safe than sorry!

  • Seem desperate

    Don’t be too pushy. Read their body language. If you tried holding their hand or kissing and they didn’t respond positively, let it be. Don’t force yourself onto someone. Give them their space and time. Don’t come across as someone desperate to get laid on the first date.

     

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  1. thanks for the knoledge u
    thanks for the knoledge u have given me,i knew some bit of it bt now i’m fulleducated.
    i’m single

    1. Hi Nelson, we are glad we
      Hi Nelson, we are glad we could teach you something. Keep looking around our page, maybe there is more for you to learn?

  2. thnx 4 ur advices b blzd
    thnx 4 ur advices b blzd

  3. vry educating n fear fghting
    vry educating n fear fghting lesson..

    1. Hi there, we are so glad to
      Hi there, we are so glad to hear that, thank you!

    2. i really want to join this…
      i really want to join this can someone please help me out

      1. Hello Cletus, you are…

        Hello Cletus, you are welcome to Love Matters Africa. Feel free to interact with us here or on our Facebook Pages, Love Matters Kenya or Love Matters Naija. 

  4. Atlist i have some content
    Atlist i have some content since am going to have adate with someone whom have met

    1. Great Eric, good luck on your
      Great Eric, good luck on your date!

      1. Thank u very much 4 ur help
        Thank u very much 4 ur help ave gained a lot of knowledge fwom ur page may God bless.i will keep rem the words especially 4 ma fırxt date which am luking 4ward 2 it.thankx.

        1. Hi Albatroz,

          Hi Albatroz,
          we are really glad to hear that!
          Good luck and keep spreading the word about us!

  5. She disclosed her love for me
    She disclosed her love for me but she is afar.

    1. Hi Achie,

      Hi Achie,
      do you like her? Because if you do, why not give it a try? Long-distance relationships are hard work, but if you work on it and stick to some ground rules, it can work out okay. No harm in trying, right? What do you think?

  6. Good tips….how do you deal
    Good tips….how do you deal with the one who is far as in a neighbouring country?

    1. Hi Poly,

      Hi Poly,
      thankfully, new technologies have made it much easier.
      Email, SMS, Facebook, whatsapp, skype… You name it! You can even have dates over videochat.
      Distance is not a reasons for not dating!
      Good luck!

  7. Wat cn i do,2 dates ar
    Wat cn i do,2 dates ar chesing me behind.wat do i do? Am enjoyn yo site ‘for real.

    1. Hi Peterz,

      Hi Peterz,
      that’s great to hear, thank you!
      Now, about your two dates- it might feel great for a while, but essentially, you will have to make a decision. Just imagine what it would feel like to be one of them. At some point, you will want to know what the deal is. So be honest, and at some point sooner rather than later, you will have to make a decision. Good luck!

  8. Wat cn i do,2 dates ar
    Wat cn i do,2 dates ar chesing me behind.wat do i do? Am enjoyn yo site ‘for real.

  9. Hi am afraid to approach a
    Hi am afraid to approach a girl can you help me please?

    1. Hi Steve,

      Hi Steve,
      take a heart and show confidence! She will like it. Be nice to her, show interest in her, ask her questions. Smile. And if she gets engaged in conversation, you have made the important first step. And then ask her to go out for a drink, food, or a walk, or whatever else you (or she) might want to do on a date.
      Don’t be afraid- even if she doesn’t want a date, you will feel better after having asked her. And it gets easier, if you do it a few times.
      If you are very shy, why not try sending her a nice message and ask her out?
      Just be brave and do it! Good luck and let us know how it goes!

    2. how can I talk to a girl,I…
      how can I talk to a girl,I have someone in mind but is too hard for me to tell her that am seriously in mad with her

      1. Hi Chireal, I believe you…

        Hi Chireal, I believe you mean to say you are madly in love with this girl… It is normal to feel the way you are feeling, however, all you need to do is to be confident and tell her how you feel. This is the only way she will get to know and you will also get to know if she feels the same or is interested. If talking to her face to face is too challenging, you can consider getting her number and calling her or texting. You could also have a mutual friend introduce you as a first step. Remember, girls find confidence attractive. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/meeting-someone/dont-sweat-over-asking-someone-out

  10. Thnx 4 ua advices…at least
    Thnx 4 ua advices…at least nimelearn wat 2 do in ma first date b blessed

    1. Hi Grace,

      Hi Grace,
      we are glad we could help out. Good luck with the first date!

  11. walae i am grateful to u .i
    walae i am grateful to u .i hv learn somtng impoTant.blessed

    1. Hi John,

      Hi John,
      we are very glad to hear that! Keep revisiting the site for all the information on sex, love and relationships you need.

  12. z t gud 2 go expensively 4 da
    z t gud 2 go expensively 4 da 1st dat n to xprize cmi1 wid money or mi b a gift

    1. Hi Victor,

      Hi Victor,
      that’s a very interesting question! And unfortunately, there is no real rule for this either. It really all depends on you. If you want to take a date out for an expensive meal, great, if not, also great. A walk in the park and a soda can also be a great first date.
      And even if you go out together, should you split the bill? Or should you pay? Again, no real rule. You can carefully approach the topic earlier and make it a part of your conversation. Something like ‘I’ve been really thinking about this beforehand, but I would like to hear what you think!’
      Does this help at all?

  13. this is just good keep it up
    this is just good keep it up tel us how one can have them on the phone

    1. Hi Frank,

      Hi Frank,
      we are so glad to hear that.
      We aren’t quite sure what you mean though– like have a first date on the phone?

  14. how can i increase the length
    how can i increase the length of the penis??

    1. Hi Kipkemoi,

      Hi Kipkemoi,
      It sounds like you are really concerned about the size of your penis, but it is important to understand size is relative. What is big for some is small for others and vise versa. Everyone’s bodies are different and it is more about how they come together, not stand alone.

      There is very little that you can do to enlarge your penis is a safe and healthy way and generally are better off just accepting the body that you have. Learn how to use it, learn how to make it work for you and your needs. You are an amazing person with so much to offer regardless of size.

      If you are really struggling feel free to talk to a doctor to see what they may be able to do for you. Otherwise please check out:

      https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/big-penis-what-women-want?

      We hope this helps!

  15. hw can i introduce the dating
    hw can i introduce the dating topics 2 a new lady or steps in general?

    1. Hi Kipkoech,

      Hi Kipkoech,
      you have two options: don’t introduce it as a date. Instead, suggest to just get chai or coffee together. And while you are doing it, you can call it a date, and see how she reacts.
      Or, be confident. ‘Would you like to go on a date with me?” can be cute and attractive. It might be difficult and a bit scary, but at least then everybody knows what’s going on.
      Does this help?

  16. Hi admin am koech,there is
    Hi admin am koech,there is this lady whom i really luv,bt one problem is she is so staunch when it comes to Godly matters i’ve tried my best bt all in vain,now how can u date/seduce someone who is a staunch xtian without hurting her?pls give me some tips on how to unlock!

    1. Hi Koech,

      Hi Koech,
      That’s a tough question. If her beliefs are very strong, there is little you will be able to do. Other than wait and be patient.
      Just imagine would you would do if it was the other way around. If it was your beliefs somebody was trying to question. What would it mean to you if somebody tried to convince to stop believing. It’s a difficult situation to be in. Good luck!

  17. i count it success, @least i
    i count it success, @least i’ll now b able to shape up next.. & wat if u get a no on ur first date does it mean live & gorget, help pliz

    1. Hi Ken, it’s good you tried-
      Hi Ken, it’s good you tried- pole that it didn’t work out. Unfortunately, this is what asking for a date is all about. Sometimes it works out, other times it doesn’t. So don’t take it personally, or too seriously, and move on. There will be other chances and moments where you will succeed. See it has a game- sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, sometimes you aren’t quite sure if it was a win or not. Keep trying! Good luck!

  18. am very glad to b educated i
    am very glad to b educated i never knew some but kmw am fully educated thankr 4 u a advice.continue advising us i lyk ua topic

  19. Hi thanks for the good pieces
    Hi thanks for the good pieces of advice uv given me i hv a qxn though……am confused…av bin datin a guy for 3yrs now..av noticed a sothin weird abot him recently,he doesnt answer my calls nor my sms…wat could be the problem?

    1. Hi Claris,

      Hi Claris,
      unfortunately, we don’t know what the problem could be. Only he knows. So please, talk to him. Tell him that you are worried, and that it stresses you out. Try to discuss it in a relaxed manner, and try to figure out what’s going on. And then, you can try to find a solution together. Keep talking- it’s the only way to solve problems. Good luck!

  20. thnks atleast i have some
    thnks atleast i have some contend of my first date

  21. Thanx alot I have atleast
    Thanx alot I have atleast some tip on how I wil treat my gal soon. I op it wil work.Thnx alot

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      you are most welcome!
      Good luck with any upcoming dates!

  22. Wow waooo than i think i
    Wow waooo than i think i gonna do it.thanks u oo

    1. Good luck with those dates!
      Good luck with those dates!

  23. My ex i lv her very much ad i
    My ex i lv her very much ad i need to follow her after along stay and thinking abt her,ad laxt tym i text her to ask her or whether she lv me,she rply there b4 bt now is a less bit,wat wl i do ad i lv her so much ad i dont fl lyk i can hv any other

    1. Hello Jackson,

      Hello Jackson,
      talk to her. Ask her why both of you can do to improve the relationship and her feelings. Be gentle and listen. Be honest and trust her. Honesty and communication are the most important aspects in a relationship- so do lots of talking! Good luck!

  24. How will u propose 2 a girl
    How will u propose 2 a girl hu is frnd of u

    1. Reaching out to people that
      Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.

      The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.

      Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.

      Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.

      We will be sending you positive thoughts, and feel free to ask any other questions as they arise.

  25. nko na grl na ako na mtoy wke
    nko na grl na ako na mtoy wke,si wa mne,alikua dem wangu past,bt alini convince tukaregeleana tena,4 abaut 5mnth.Na sahi tume brokup tena.n i lve her,n yko na anather guy.Itakuaje?advice repl..

    1. Breakups are hard. Generally
      Breakups are hard. Generally we invest in relationships both emotionally and physically, you make plans together, you envision a future together and when it crumbles it can be really hard. Of course it is normal to have times where you miss you ex or you may even want to get back together.

      I recommend that you really think about why you broke up. Have the issues been addressed? Have you both taken enough time to heal? Are there lingering things that would make it hard? If you think that there has been enough time and that the same mistakes from before won’t be repeated feel free to try it again. But also remember that you are a strong independent (wo)man who deserves someone who will love and respect you. If (s)he can’t treat you right then don’t bother an work through the pain and try to find someone who will be a better fit for you.

    2. msahau, endelea na maisha
      msahau, endelea na maisha mengine

  26. luv dis girl but i dont no hw
    luv dis girl but i dont no hw to tel her pls help me

    1. Hi Sunny,

      Hi Sunny,
      Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.

      The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.

      Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.

      Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.
      Good luck!

  27. Is it on the first date that
    Is it on the first date that someone has to make a proposal?and or is it always that only a man is supose to propose

    1. Hi Bruce,

      Hi Bruce,
      not, it’s not only the men! Women can propose dates, too! Some people still thinks it’s unusual, but it’s totally okay.
      And yes, it’s usually the first date that needs some more proposing. If it goes well and you two want to see each other again, the two of you can just keep on arranging dates.

  28. oky,i hav a gal-friend,wen we
    oky,i hav a gal-friend,wen we meet wid my friends(boys) she usually hug them,i decided one dai 2hug one of her friends as we came across her since dat dai its about a wik she doesnt tak 2 me…wats da wai 4ward plz??

  29. oky,i hav a gal-friend,wen we
    oky,i hav a gal-friend,wen we meet wid my friends(boys) she usually hug them,i decided one dai 2hug one of her friends as we came across her since dat dai its about a wik she doesnt tak 2 me…wats da wai 4ward plz??

    1. Hi Sammie,

      Hi Sammie,
      I’m so sorry, that’s very unfortunate.
      It seems she is jealous. You need to talk to her. Explain to her that when she does it, she knows it doesn’t mean anything, and it’s the same for you. It’s just a hug between friends. Be nice about it and open. She is hurt, and you have to make sure that she doesn’t feel attacked. Good luck!

  30. waaaaaah,ni start wea sasa..I
    waaaaaah,ni start wea sasa..I lykd it page jst hv afew weeks ago..I’m really thankful for every piece if advice nd love tips..aftr reading them agained the courage to go for a date..nd nw I hv someone to kol a babe..jst becoz if you pple..danx for real guys..keep it working.

    1. Hi Richy,

      Hi Richy,
      wow, thanks for your praise! We will keep it up!

  31. I have made a step. forward
    I have made a step. forward

  32. thnks 4 th eduction,,atleast
    thnks 4 th eduction,,atleast i hve smthin tew strt wth,,be blessed lovematter.com

    1. You are most welcome.
      You are most welcome. Ramadhan! Good luck!

  33. thanks for your advice..am nw
    thanks for your advice..am nw confident in my new relationship. keep it up!!

    1. Hi Samiya,

      Hi Samiya,
      we absolutely will! Good luck with your new relationship!

  34. hello there. thnx for the
    hello there. thnx for the knowled gg .my ex joined my friends in fighting me when we had a misunderstanding..he had sex with one of my friends and when i tried finding out why.,he became so harsh towards me ..i even confirmed he was stil having sex with his ex..we therefore broke up about 8 months ago..and now he wants us back. .is it healthy to date such a person? kindly advise..

    1. Hi Clara,

      Hi Clara,
      I think you already know the answer. Unless you think he can actually change his ways and be better than he was, I would think twice about getting back with him. You deserve the best, and no less.

    1. You are welcome, Clara!
      You are welcome, Clara!

    1. We are glad to hear that,
      We are glad to hear that, Phil!

  35. i luv this page thank u.av
    i luv this page thank u.av realy learned
    a lot

    1. We are glad to hear that,
      We are glad to hear that, Phil.

  36. wawawa thanks alot fr ur help
    wawawa thanks alot fr ur help its my first tym 2 visit this page and i’ve actually learnt alot be blessed:-*:-*

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      keep coming back, we have new articles every day!

  37. I’ve learned a lot from this
    I’ve learned a lot from this write up. It will do real good for me. Thanks

    1. That’s great to hear!
      That’s great to hear!

  38. i really appreciating the
    i really appreciating the working you are duing as a group nd page..manze everyday i usually get new advice as i learn more on love matter’s. dho hakunanga someone perfect. i guess i wil be de first one..thanks

  39. i really appreciating the
    i really appreciating the working you are duing as a group nd page..manze everyday i usually get new advice as i learn more on love matter’s. dho hakunanga someone perfect. i guess i wil be de first one..thanks

    1. You are most welcome!
      You are most welcome!

  40. i’ve learned alot from this
    i’ve learned alot from this page u guys keep it up educating us

    1. We are so happy to hear that!
      We are so happy to hear that!

  41. I like this site its so
    I like this site its so amazing thanks for the few advices that I hv Read

    1. You are very welcome, Absalom
      You are very welcome, Absalom!

  42. Whnever i ask her 4 a date
    Whnever i ask her 4 a date she says she is afraid of pregnancy n losing hr virginity. Hw do i win her.

    1. Hi Rheus,

      Hi Rheus,
      I’m not sure what your intentions are, but dating doesn’t equal sex. If you are aware, and okay, with that, tell her you just want to start by doing on a few dates, like coffee, or dinner, or a movie. If she doesn’t want to have sex, there is nothing wrong with it, it’s her choice, and she doesn’t need to, but it doesn’t mean she can’t date.

  43. Am vry much grtful abt wat u
    Am vry much grtful abt wat u are offering on this site. I have learnt alot n nao i ken treat ma lady da best wei she deserves to b treated. Be blessed.

    1. Hi Davision,

      Hi Davision,
      thank you so much!

  44. got th tip on hw to bhave on
    got th tip on hw to bhave on my first date.thanx

  45. I have a girl am in love with
    I have a girl am in love with and I told her I want to marry her in future and become my wife but she always tells me that marriage is not her vocation. What do you think I should do coz I don’t want to let her go?

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      we already replied on the other thread, check there.

  46. There is this girl I was
    There is this girl I was admiring so much back in high school 6yrs ago but I never said it coz I was timid. I was lucky to get her contact last week
    and I didn’t hesitate this time surprisingly she said yes immediately. should I be worried?

    1. No, don’t be worried, Saoke,
      No, don’t be worried, Saoke, enjoy!

  47. i hv a b/f n he claims to
    i hv a b/f n he claims to love me 2 much we have dated sevel tms but i kept tellg him i dint have anyfeeling 4 him n we decides 2 b friends, ,now it reaches to apoint he started musterbation when i refuse he begg just amwage. it now has exsteded n am like am feelg him to but 4 me hate sex naturaly how wil i satisfy him plz advice

    1. Rogzin,

      Rogzin,
      sex is about mutual pleasure. You shouldn’t just worry about him- ask yourself why you aren’t enjoying it! Is it that it’s too fast and he doesn’t know what to do to give you pleasure?

  48. Wow!! what a piece of advice
    Wow!! what a piece of advice from u.What should wear or not wear on the first date?

    1. Hi Eddy,

      Hi Eddy,
      it really depends on what you are doing! If you are going for a nice dinner, wear something nice. If you are going for a movie, wear something comfortable. In general, don’t wear anything that you don’t feel yourself in- that’s much more important than trying to impress the other person.

  49. Hae

    Hae
    Is it possible to be friends with the person you love and u have loved for two year? To forget about the feelings and just be friends?

  50. ave got this guy whom we are
    ave got this guy whom we are friends and i think am in love with him….i once told him wat i feel as a by the way bt he dint reply to it… am confused on wat to do.

    1. Hi Karol,

      Hi Karol,
      If he didn’t reply, leave it for a while. But then, have an honest conversation with him. Ask him what he thought when you said it- and get an answer out of him.
      Good luck!

  51. thnx alot for the advice,bt
    thnx alot for the advice,bt nko na swali,nlikuwa na manzi apa ushagu after nmemaliza shule,n then tukakaa na yeye for about five months,i loved her very much bt it happend that alieda town nairobi b4 me n so baada ya kukaa uko mwezi mmoja akalenga stori zangu n akanabia niachane na yeye,bt stil nampeda i feel lonely n it seems hard for me to find another girl wat should i do?

  52. hw can i go abt dis lady ,wen
    hw can i go abt dis lady ,wen i meet her she luks me direct in the eye nd smiles as if she has agreed to mah plea of luving me in return. she never say agree wen I ask ha nd she has never responded dat she luvs me too

    1. Kwarush,

      Kwarush,
      could you talk to her about that? Ask her what’s going on and try to get an answer out of her.

  53. I Can Say Am Well Off Now.
    I Can Say Am Well Off Now. Thanks 4 Ua Teachings.

  54. she is saying that she loves
    she is saying that she loves me and her another man and she is confused on how to balance us all…..what can I do and I luv her and she does too… ??

    1. Devisky,

      Devisky,
      she is leading both of you on.
      She needs to make a decision, for one of you.

  55. i like ur advice..there is
    i like ur advice..there is this lady i met in supermarket i liked on the first sight..we had a small talk, exchanged no.s then started to get along..she however told me she had a boyfriend of which i respected..we have gone a bit far now n she has now started calling sweet names like darling..culd this b a trick to play with my feelings or does it indicate she is falling for me despite her status..advice please.

    1. Erick,

      Erick,
      you need to talk about this with her. We can’t you what her plan is, and what her feelings for you are. So please talk to her.

  56. thanx,can i have sex on the
    thanx,can i have sex on the first date?does it have any implication?

    1. JJ,

      JJ,
      it really depends; there are no rules.
      If both you and your date are up for it- great, if not, then don’t do it.

  57. dhaks 4 ua advice av learnt
    dhaks 4 ua advice av learnt alot.Bur need help plz afta ma fast date we plnd abt da 2nd bur ma bf gave excuse n it fyld since we r far 4rm each other wen i ask he claims I 2try n met him wea he is wat mae b da prblm

    1. Shyre,

      Shyre,
      what do you want? Do you feel uncomfortable going to his place? If you do, talk to him about it and try to find another option!

  58. I have a girl n we’ve been
    I have a girl n we’ve been grooving severally tukisaka mtoi Bt b4 tulale Huwa anaenda nje does it mean Anatumia pills?????? plz Nid ur answer

    1. Have you asked her about this
      Have you asked her about this? She will be able to tell you what’s going on.

  59. Thanx guys 4 each piece of
    Thanx guys 4 each piece of advice u share to social media.
    But how do I get this lady i’m yearning for? i’m afraid to be embarrassed if she turn me down

  60. waw so romatic i enjoy it
    waw so romatic i enjoy it

  61. i hv fallen in lvu with
    i hv fallen in lvu with smone i hv never seen physical we do communicate frm facebook its now coming to two yrs wen we ar communicating n both of us hv liked each other n we ar planning to meet in December da first week we frm neighboring countries .wht should i do ? should i meet him ornot ? if yes hw do i do ?it coz i hv got fear since its ma first tyme hwever much he has been sending me his photos

    1. How do you feel about this,
      How do you feel about this, Gorret? Do you think you should meet him? Have you talked to him about this?

  62. I’m Pleased…New Things In
    I’m Pleased…New Things In Life Never End

  63. i hv this gal jst aneighbour
    i hv this gal jst aneighbour at d work place bt shes alwayz busy n i hv acrush on her,ok we hv eva talkd bt its only ‘hello’ i wish to ask her 4 out i dont knw where to start pliz help.thax

    1. JB,

      JB,
      the next time you say hello, ask her how she is doing, and how her week is going. And from there, try if you can build up conversation. Tell her you see her all the time, you want to know her name, and what she does, and take it from there.

  64. Im single, i masterbate so
    Im single, i masterbate so often & its now a habit b4 i sleep i masterbate 1st without wc i dont sleep. plis advice.

    1. Yes Paty, please feel free to
      Yes Paty, please feel free to ask.

  65. Thanks a lot for the advises
    Thanks a lot for the advises …have been going through your advices and indeed I have learnt a lot..I appreciate..
    Thanks..

    1. You are most welcome Clarrah.
      You are most welcome Clarrah.

  66. I’m Harrison Amolo,2nd year
    I’m Harrison Amolo,2nd year Clinical medicine&surgery student Kmtc Thika campus.I’m looking for a job in any place around Nairobi,kiambu,Machakos,and muranga counties.i am a hardworking person and in any field i ensure my work is smart and impresses my boss.Night shift will be on my favour due our fixed lectures throughout the week.I have school fees challenges and money that can sustain my daily requirements in terms of food.kindly inform me of any job you have through 0792869940.I’m ready to work in any field you will offer me.I look forward to working with you.thank you.

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Amolo,

      Keep checking our website to see if there are job openings. Wish you all the best.

    2. Wish you all the best Mr…
      Wish you all the best Mr Amolo

  67. hi am glad for ur advice…
    hi am glad for ur advice thanks

  68. I have met with a guy I love…
    I have met with a guy I love in a social media, very soon we are going to meet…how can I go about it for our date to be peaceful and successful?

    1. Hi Jenny. Many people meet…
      Hi Jenny. Many people meet online and go on to have a great relationship. It may help to think about what you want on that first date and to also share with your date so you are on the same page from the start. Look at the Tips above again, they will be helpful.

  69. I am in love with a guy had…
    I am in love with a guy had not yet seen, we met in social media. How can I go about it , like meeting him for the first time

    1. (No subject)
      We appreciate your contribution. Feel free to ask any questions on Love, Sex or Relationships and we shall be more than glad to respond to you.

  70. Thanks for your concern to…
    Thanks for your concern to making me know know more and others too. Am grateful for your lessons taught.

    1. You are welcome Martha. We…
      You are welcome Martha. We are glad you found this information useful.

  71. What kind of venues should I…
    What kind of venues should I think of??…maybe am not so well financially and I want something classic for her..please help

    1. Hey Steave, It may help to…
      Hey Steave, It may help to find out what she likes and try and get something as close as possible if not the actual thing she likes. All the best.

    1. You are welcome Love.

      You are welcome Love.

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