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Is it love?

Love is a powerful, positive emotion. Like all emotions, you may experience it differently depending on your age, the relationship you're in, and the kind of person you are.

Loving someone isn’t the same as being in love with them.

Being in love is the intense feeling at the start of a relationship, when you only see the positive things about the other person and walk around with your head in the clouds. This feeling can be so intense it actually hurts – especially if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you.

The feeling of being in love develops over time, and becomes a deeper, steadier, tender feeling for the other person – you love them.

Love develops in stages, and doesn't always follow the same pattern. But in most cases love begins with the passion of sexual attraction, then the dreamy, overwhelming 'in love' stage, and finally the deeper attachment that develops over time and can last for years – sometimes for a lifetime.

Are you in love?

When you’re in love, you think about the person you’re in love with all day. You think everything they do is wonderful. Being in love can make you feel on top of the world, but it can also make you nervous and edgy.

You get a strange, restless feeling when you see the person. You might even get stomach ache. You can’t help smiling. You don’t know what to say when you see them – or you talk too much because you’re trying to impress them.

If all this sounds familiar, you’re probably in love!

Scientists have tried to find out what makes us feel this way, and what happens to our brains when we're in love. They found that really does go to our heads: our bodies produce more of certain hormones like oxytocin, commonly known as the 'love hormone'.

Making love

Having sex is also called 'making love' because it's such an important part of a romantic or intimate relationship. But love and sex aren't the same thing – you can have one without the other. Many people only have sex with someone they love, but you can also have sex out of lust – just for the pleasure of having sex. Still, most people find deeper pleasure in having sex with the person they love.

Read more about making love here.

Comments

Am in a relationship for past 5years the starting was so lovely and great but after child come in there has been lack of communication , no attentions l HV try so many times to find out what is going on in his mind but no chance, pls what shall I do.

Hello Abigirl, A child will at times affect the dynamics of a relationship. It is upon both partner to recognize these changes and be deliberate about making time for each other. open and honest communication about this changes will help resolve the different conflicts. A baby can also take up all the time so that you do not have time for each other or cause you to be to exhausted for your partner. Think about how your lives have changed after the baby and the talk about how you restore things to what they used to be. Open and honest communication will go along way to helping this process. Do find a good time to have this conversion. Check out the following articles for more tips:- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

Hi my name is Esther I have been dating Guy's but I don't love when I pay a visit and see another girl I will be very angry please I need help

Hi Esther, You mean you find another girl at his place when you visit? Have you asked what the relationship between him and girl is? How you feel when this happens is completely normal but it maybe important for you talk to your partner and get to know what could be going with the girls you find at his place. Holding on to assumption may lead to make a decision that is misinformed. Talk to him so you can get to know. We wish you well.

Hi Paloma, The only way they will get to know how you feel is if you become brave and tell exactly how you feel. It maybe tough to do it one on one but you can also do it over a call or any other way you feel will work for you. Remember, they maybe feeling the same way or not and you'd have to respect their feelings even if they don't feel the same as you.
Luckson H
Sat, 10/04/2014 - 19:54

hi i hav understood frm your teaching,nw my stuation is lik this am in lov and nw my parter she is a bit far frm me i somtimes go and vist her but if a weak pass without seeng her or talk to her i keep on thinking about her what does this mean?

Love come in many dfferent form.the people you love are usually. The people you feel most hppy to be with. Whom you lyk to spent most tym with. The people who couldn't bear to lose. And the people you care about the most

Hi Kelvo, well, then you need to make sure that you make your feelings clear to them! You can't expect people to magically know it. Be brave, tell someone you like that your are interested in them! Good luck!

Hello Grace, I can imagine how frustrating and heartbreaking this is for you. Have you talked with him about this? Has he asked for forgiveness? Is he willing to change? Think about whether your relationship can go back to what it used to be, whether you forgive him and trust him and love him again. If not you will have a decision to make including walking away from this relationship. Check out the following article for more information. https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/cheating

Hi Kelvoh, Love is elusive. It is hard to describe but you know it when you feel it. The same goes for your partner, there is no way to know for sure but it’s a feeling. Trust your gut, you know more than you think. Just remember that everyone expresses and feels love a bit differently

Hi,am in love with these lady whom i have dated 4 more than one year.we have sex several times but each time she demands goods from me.What can be the problem?

Hi Vinnie, it seems that sex for her is a transaction. You get her body but she gets something in return. You need to talk to her about this, if this is not what you want. In a consensual relationship, this shouldn't happen. So talk to her- what's going on, and what does the relationship mean to her?
Anonymous
Sat, 11/15/2014 - 06:08

I realy love my bf bt he has drifted away n wen i askd him if he is tired of me,he said that i shuld undrstand that he is in grief and give him time(he lost his uncle over a mnth n a half ago)could dat b da rsn or jus an excuse?

Am so inlove with some1 but am sacred of meeting him every time he asks me out i turn him down......i dono what to call what am feeling is it love or something els?
wendy davids
Wed, 12/17/2014 - 23:28

am in lve with a guy,we hve mved on for eight months nd we have gone ahead nd have sex,so ma worry z,we r nt communcatin as much as we used tew before nd he doesnt kip his promises as he used tew am word plz hlp
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