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Is it love?

Love is a powerful, positive emotion. Like all emotions, you may experience it differently depending on your age, the relationship you're in, and the kind of person you are.

Loving someone isn’t the same as being in love with them.


Being in love is the intense feeling at the start of a relationship, when you only see the positive things about the other person and walk around with your head in the clouds. This feeling can be so intense it actually hurts – especially if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you.

The feeling of being in love develops over time, and becomes a deeper, steadier, tender feeling for the other person - you love them.

Love develops in stages, and doesn't always follow the same pattern. But in most cases love begins with the passion of sexual attraction, then the dreamy, overwhelming 'in love' stage, and finally the deeper attachment that develops over time and can last for years - sometimes for a lifetime.

Are you in love?

When you’re in love, you think about the person you’re in love with all day. You think everything they do is wonderful. Being in love can make you feel on top of the world, but it can also make you nervous and edgy.

You get a strange, restless feeling when you see the person. You might even get stomach ache. You can’t help smiling. You don’t know what to say when you see them – or you talk too much because you’re trying to impress them.

If all this sounds familiar, you’re probably in love!

Scientists have tried to find out what makes us feel this way, and what happens to our brains when we're in love. They found that really does go to our heads: our bodies produce more of certain hormones like oxytocin, commonly known as the 'love hormone'.

Making love

Having sex is also called 'making love' because it's such an important part of a romantic or intimate relationship. But love and sex aren't the same thing - you can have one without the other. Many people only have sex with someone they love, but you can also have sex out of lust - just for the pleasure of having sex. Still, most people find deeper pleasure in having sex with the person they love.

Read more about making love here.

Luckson H (not verified)
Sat, 10/04/2014 - 07:54 pm

hi i hav understood frm your teaching,nw my stuation is lik this am in lov and nw my parter she is a bit far frm me i somtimes go and vist her but if a weak pass without seeng her or talk to her i keep on thinking about her what does this mean?

Love come in many dfferent form.the people you love are usually. The people you feel most hppy to be with. Whom you lyk to spent most tym with. The people who couldn't bear to lose. And the people you care about the most

Hi Kelvo, well, then you need to make sure that you make your feelings clear to them! You can't expect people to magically know it. Be brave, tell someone you like that your are interested in them! Good luck!

Hi Kelvoh, Love is elusive. It is hard to describe but you know it when you feel it. The same goes for your partner, there is no way to know for sure but it’s a feeling. Trust your gut, you know more than you think. Just remember that everyone expresses and feels love a bit differently
Vinnie (not verified)
Mon, 10/20/2014 - 11:07 pm

Hi,am in love with these lady whom i have dated 4 more than one year.we have sex several times but each time she demands goods from me.What can be the problem?

Hi Vinnie, it seems that sex for her is a transaction. You get her body but she gets something in return. You need to talk to her about this, if this is not what you want. In a consensual relationship, this shouldn't happen. So talk to her- what's going on, and what does the relationship mean to her?
Anonymous (not verified)
Sat, 11/15/2014 - 06:08 am

I realy love my bf bt he has drifted away n wen i askd him if he is tired of me,he said that i shuld undrstand that he is in grief and give him time(he lost his uncle over a mnth n a half ago)could dat b da rsn or jus an excuse?
Shukri (not verified)
Wed, 11/26/2014 - 08:07 pm

Am so inlove with some1 but am sacred of meeting him every time he asks me out i turn him down......i dono what to call what am feeling is it love or something els?
wendy davids (not verified)
Wed, 12/17/2014 - 11:28 pm

am in lve with a guy,we hve mved on for eight months nd we have gone ahead nd have sex,so ma worry z,we r nt communcatin as much as we used tew before nd he doesnt kip his promises as he used tew am word plz hlp

Wendy, have you tried talking to him about it? Takes some time to explain what it makes you feel like when he behaves like it? Relationships are about good communication, and it sounds like this is something you can work on.
w.mwirigi (not verified)
Wed, 01/07/2015 - 02:46 pm

i met a guy a month ago,we bcame very close en good friends after some tyme he expressed his feelings... he explained tht he has fallen inlov wth mi en that he wants mi 2 b his lady.. at first i rejected him bt as days went by he showed much love en care 2 mi.. i thnk i lov him 2 bt tha problem is he has not ended his relationship wth tha previous gal... what shal i do?
Patricia (not verified)
Sat, 01/10/2015 - 11:25 pm

Hi....I hvnt bin d8ng 4 mnths so i joined a sight called Badoo in dat sight i made it clear dat m looking 4 frndshp so it hppnd i chat 2 dis guy so we kept on chatting evridae so we started being frnds 1st so i hppnd 2 lyk hm bcs he hs da kind of personality i luvd frm a guy n he's exactly evrithng dat i wntd frm a guy.As da days went passd so he confessed dat he lyks me rememba i ddnt tel hm dat i lykd hm too so i playd hard 2 get cz i ddnt wnt hm 2 thnk negative abt me as da tym went by i confessd 2 so he wud col me evridae n chat 4 hours n then we finaly decided we wud meet each atha n d8,so we met,d8d so my luv 4 hm strtd 2 grow n gt stronger.We d8 2 b honest he treated me lyk a queen,appreciated me,wen i ws wit hm i wud fil safe n secured,he wud make me 4gt abt evrithng n he wud tel me he fils da same.So as da tym went by we hd a small misunderstanding so he said i hd drama whch i ddnt cz i askd hm questions soo he decided 2 end da relationshp so i said 2 hm fine ivn though twsnt cz i ws gyving hm wat he wntd bt i wud fil lonelyness n sent hm sms apologising n telling hw i fil ivn though i wsnt da 1 hu ws wrng n he wud nt reply on dem. I decided 2 stop sending hm cz i wud c dat he's nt da ws dis atha day i wud thnk of hm an smile 2 myslf,thnk of his jokes,da thngs he wud say 2 me,hw he wlks n his smile,etc,i dnt wanna lie he also played a big ''impact'' in my life in only these past few mnths we were 2geda. So i sent hm an sms telling hm hw i truly mis hm so he replied 2 dat he also misses me he also said he guesses dat i also played a big impact in his lyf so he said he wnts us 2 start fresh bt nw m in doubts abt him cz i kept on thnkng if he's nt gna do da samethng again cz wen we broke up he neva gave me any reason y he broke up wit me n nw wen i sent hm smses he wud nt reply on dem or he wud reply wen he fils lyk replying. I dnt knw wat 2 do plz give me an advice n i stil luv hm n so mch bt m in doubts.
Patricia (not verified)
Sun, 01/11/2015 - 07:43 pm

He dasnt let me n i thnk hs avoiding me in sum case cz i've askd hm 2 cum 2 my place or ndiye kwakhe bt he's alwys making an excuse... Du u thnk he's d8ng sum1 else?
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