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Noisy sex: why women moan and scream in bed

When do women make most noise during sex? When they’re having an orgasm? Or when their man is about to come? Recent research reveals the truth.

This article is part of our Best of 2014 series. It was originally published on 05-11-2014.

Why do some women literally scream and shout in bed?

Guys, maybe you think that she’s moaning and screaming because you’re such a great lover – you’re pounding away inside her, she’s having a mind-blowing orgasm. Sorry, think again. That’s not why women are so noisy in bed, according to the findings of a British study. Over 85 percent of women make lots of noise simply to boost their partner’s sex self-esteem, the study found.

The researchers asked over 70 heterosexual women whether they were more likely to reach orgasm during masturbation, foreplay, or intercourse. They also wanted to know how noisy the women were during these different sexual activities and the reasons why.

All of the women in the study said they made noise in bed, whether it was screaming out their partner’s name, telling him to go faster or harder, or moaning with pleasure. But the researchers were in for a surprise when they compared how noisy women were when they reached orgasm.

The women were more likely to climax during foreplay – like when their partner gave them oral sex – compared to intercourse. And it wasn’t when they were coming that they were most likely to make noise.

Stroking his ego

When it comes to moaning and screaming, they made a lot more noise when they were having sex, right before and during their partner’s orgasm. Yes, the reason most women make noise in bed is to turn on their partner. In fact, almost 80 percent said they make noise even when they know there’s no chance they’re going to reach orgasm themselves.

All that hollering is mainly to stroke their guy’s ego. It doesn’t necessarily mean a girl’s in ecstasy. In fact, it could mean just the opposite. Women also say that moans and screams are one way to hurry sex along when you’re not particularly enjoying it.

Yup, women can and do use their voice to control how their guy feels during sex and when he climaxes, the researchers conclude. And why do they do it? To ‘manipulate male behavior to their advantage’.

Boosting her guy’s sex self-esteem by making lots of noise could help strengthen the bond between a woman and her partner, the researchers hypothesise. But there’s also the advantage of speeding up a guy’s orgasm if she’s in pain, just plain bored, or ready to roll over and go to sleep.

Subtle signs

So guys, if you really want to please her, don’t go by the big performance, look for the subtle signs of ecstasy. And girls, nice of you to cheer him on like that, but don’t forget to show and tell what really makes you go wild...

Are you noisy during sex? Do you do it on purpose, or does it just happen? Leave a comment below or on Facebook.

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Hai am Judy
Thu, 03/30/2017 - 16:39

I don't have any feelings for sex at all am 32 of age even l have a baby girl but l can't tell how l conceived bse l never felt anything during sex that day or it's bse l took long to break my virginity or it's abnormal pliz help am now in another relationship but am scared it might not work for me thank you

Hi Judy, You need to get to know what feels good for you when it comes to sex. What gets one person aroused may not for the next person. After you determine what feels good for you, go on and tell or even show your partner what to do and how to do it. Sex is better when there is communication between partners. Check out the following articles for more information:- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/foreplay-turning-up-the-heat https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex
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