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Students: forced to be porn actors

Human traffickers recruit Ugandan university students with promises of good jobs in Kenya. For Sunday Bekunda, it turned into a nightmare of porn acting.

PMS chronicles

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) has lots of symptoms: mood swings, tender breasts, food cravings, fatigue, and of course irritability and depression.

Dating in Nairobi: no longer safe for gay men

Kenyan gay men need to be less horny and more cautious when it comes to internet dating. The risks involved are much worse than a broken heart.

The battle of the L-words

Love is a very strong state of mind, but so is lust. Do you know what defines the two, what separates them? Have you been living out one thinking that it was the latter?

HIV: burying my parents

Can you ever heal from the tragedy of losing your parents to HIV/AIDS at a young age?

No more deadbeat men

Aren’t you lucky in the dating department? Are the men interested in you either straight-up losers or show their deadbeat side once you've gone on a few dates?

How rape shapes your future relationships

Many women who were molested or raped as kids make it sound as if it was ‘no biggie’. But your early life shapes your views of people and relationships.

Ready for sex; until I saw his penis

Anna thought she was ready for sex but chickened out at the last minute. Read on to find out why!

Stealthing: it's not just about you

There are some sexual trends that are odd, while some are a bit awkward. Some are downright wrong and illegal, and we have to make sure they end.

Anal sex: not for me?

Bridget was never keen on anal sex, and all the myths she’d heard only hardened her resolve. Would unlearning some misconceptions make her change her mind?

Saying no to gender-based violence

It's not ‘sexy’ for a man to call you the ‘b’ word or grab you by the neck: we say 'no' and take part in 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence.

Embarrassing sex stories

You’ve been building up towards the moment. He’s been sexting you all day to prepare you for what’s going to happen in the evening, he sent you flowers.