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Getting over your ex

You’ve lost everything, your life is ruined and you’ll never be happy again – that’s what break-ups feel like. Will you ever get over it? Don’t despair just yet.

  • … give yourself time

    Break-ups are difficult. They hurt. And that’s okay. Don’t put on a fake smile and go on with your life as if nothing happened. It’s best to deal with the pain while it’s fresh instead of suppressing it and having it pop up twice as bad a few months down the line.

    Don’t start looking for a new relationship immediately after a break-up. Rebounds very rarely work out, and you run the risk of getting hurt again. Or hurting someone else.

    Give yourself time to grieve and come to terms with what happened. Only once you feel good about yourself and aren’t angry or sad about your past relationship anymore should you start considering a new relationship.

  • … take care of your body

    When our hearts are in pain, we tend to treat our bodies badly, too. Some people stop eating. Others eat way too much. Others yet start drinking, smoking or taking all sorts of pain killers, legal or otherwise. All of this won’t help you get over your break-up. So try to be nice to your body, it will help you in the long run.

    Also, why not try some exercise? Getting some of the ‘happy hormones’ called endorphins flowing through your body isn’t just good for your health, but will also make you feel better in general.

  • … distract yourself

    As difficult as it will be, get out of the bed and out of the house. Meet friends and family, or start playing a sport you were always interested in, learn how to cook, join a club… The possibilities are endless, but the aim is the same. Meet new people, do something you enjoy and in the meantime get some much-needed breathing time.

  • … contact your ex

    No calling, no emails, no messages, no texting, and please, no sexting! No constant checking on his or her Facebook profile, or any other form of e-stalking. And, no running into him or her, just ‘coincidentally’. In order to give yourself the space you need to heal, you need to cut all contact with your ex for a while. The more carefully you are following this rule, the faster you will get over your ex. We promise.

    On the same note, don’t re-read old emails or messages. This will tear your heart apart faster than you can say break-up. Big no-no!

  • … become a hermit

    Yes, we know that the only thing you want to do right now is to curl up on your bed, close the curtains and listen to sad love songs. Which is okay. But you really need to make sure that you have people you can talk to, whose shoulders you can cry on. Don’t try to fight the pain all by yourself. It’s important to talk about what’s going on, especially with someone who cares about you. They will make sure you aren’t beating yourself up over something that isn’t your fault. And that’s really important.

  • … start questioning your whole relationship

    It didn’t work out. That’s bad and it hurts right now. But don’t start questioning your entire relationship, or, even worse, start blaming yourself for things you couldn’t change.

    Don’t ask yourself if you’d still be together if only you were a bit taller/prettier/smarter/funnier. As clichéd as it may sound, sometimes it just isn’t meant to be. And sometimes it really is them, not you.

    That said, we can all learn from break-ups, and some reflection can be helpful and help you grow as a person. And maybe even help you avoid repeating preventable mistakes in your next relationship.

     

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  1. No contact…..no messaging!!
    No contact…..no messaging!!
    Datx nyc

    1. Let’s hope you can stick to
      Let’s hope you can stick to it 🙂

  2. it’s hard not to e-stalk if
    it’s hard not to e-stalk if you’re still friends..so block them? despite how it may make you look?

    1. Hey Jay,

      Hey Jay,
      really good point! That’s a tricky one, and people will have to decide what works best for them. But don’t be afraid to unfriend someone- it’s all your choice!

  3. Chapter 2 in the book How to
    Chapter 2 in the book How to heal your heart was and is a HUGE help. Distraction is great too…. Stay busy. Realizing that no relationship is or was ever a waste of time, or energy. It was and is always a chance to learn from the whole experience. It’s how we get opportunities to heal ourselves through these relationships. So look deep, for the lesson. Grieve your loss. Even something not good or right for you will feel like an empty hole when it’s not there anymore. It’s a loss all the same. Grieve your loss. Let it happen. Be kind to yourself but not self indulgent. Pray. Be thankful and be sure to thank God for all your blessings surrender your heart and situation to God and rest for awhile. Let Him take the wheel. You just rest and be still while you heal. No nasty self talk…. That’s part of “be kind to yourself”. Don’t should all over yourself or them either. Really letting go means..”LET GO”. Love yourself in spirit and actions. Don’t add insult to injury that will only rip off the scabs and prevent healing. Lastly…. You got to feel it to heal it. So feel it, grieve it, learn from it and put it to rest once and for all.

    1. Thanks for sharing, Wendy,
      Thanks for sharing, Wendy, this is great!

  4. Cutting all ties nd focusing
    Cutting all ties nd focusing what was best for me at that time. I had to learn to live without him. De communicaion stoped even though I ddnt want 2 but it was for de best

    1. Hi Antoinette, you are
      Hi Antoinette, you are absolutely right, good points!

    1. Thanks for your comment,
      Thanks for your comment, Jullie.

  5. Indeed it has been helpful to
    Indeed it has been helpful to overcome some great setbacks in life.wil love 2 learn more

    1. Hi Paul, keep coming back, we
      Hi Paul, keep coming back, we have a new interesting story every day!

  6. The saying “Don’t constantly
    The saying “Don’t constantly check her profiles eg Facebook”
    touches directly, because i used to do that.. Bt now, i will go miles from her profiles…

    1. Hi Omar,

      Hi Omar,
      it touches because we can do it… But even knowing it doesn’t mean you won’t do it.

  7. thanks uve really educated me
    thanks uve really educated me thats wat am gonna do hes been calling texting watsupping me ,silence s the best medicine

    1. It is indeed, Rosemary! We
      It is indeed, Rosemary! We are glad we could help!

  8. its difficult to get over to
    its difficult to get over to smone that you love…. For me! i still love my ex.

    1. Hi Paulus,

      Hi Paulus,
      you are absolutely right, it’s very difficult! You once loved that person, and now you shouldn’t? You can’t change that from one day to the other!

    2. it is realy hard to forget
      it is realy hard to forget your ex.

  9. Silence helped me get rid.no
    Silence helped me get rid.no communication.i never met with him.

    1. Good job, Emily. Did it help?
      Good job, Emily. Did it help?

  10. Since I decide to cut all
    Since I decide to cut all networks between me and my X, things are now going well and am even planning to go for another one a thing I couldn’t do when we were communicating!.It works.

  11. i broke with my gal three
    i broke with my gal three weeks ago,we are still in touch…is it bad?

    1. Hi Steve,

      Hi Steve,
      it’s not bad, but it might make getting over each other much more difficult.

  12. As for me I give myself a
    As for me I give myself a given period like one month n start moving my thoughts off my ex slowly and I find it awesome!!

    1. Hi Stanley,

      Hi Stanley,
      it’s great you have found a way that works for you! Keep it up!

  13. As for me I give myself a
    As for me I give myself a given period like one month n start moving my thoughts off my ex slowly and I find it awesome!!

  14. Silence works out better.
    Silence works out better.

    1. We hope you don’t mean
      We hope you don’t mean silence for breaking up, because you do owe your (ex-)partner more than that. But afterwards definitely, silence can really help to get over someone.

  15. Silence works out better.
    Silence works out better.

  16. Keep off and time will heal
    Keep off and time will heal everything.

  17. my current girlfriend was
    my current girlfriend was harted by her x and she promised never to turn back but the boy still insists…. she made the decision of throwing the line and clossing all her e-chats to avoid the man….so ma question is it the best way to avoid the man plz???

    1. Hi Vicky,

      Hi Vicky,
      yep, I think she made a really good choice there. Avoid him at all costs.

  18. exercise realy plays a part
    exercise realy plays a part in getting over An X. It has worked for me.

    1. We are glad you agree, Zach,
      We are glad you agree, Zach,

  19. It’s been hard to let go of
    It’s been hard to let go of him but am try is a month now since we parted ways…. I thank God we’re not in the same town n I believe I will cope since have disconnect all the networking things about us.

    1. Hi terry, stay strong, you
      Hi terry, stay strong, you will get through it! All the best!

  20. now that she is not talking
    now that she is not talking to me 4 over six months does that mean i was dumped long time ago?

    1. It does sound like it, Jasper
      It does sound like it, Jasper. Have you tried talking to her about this?

  21. Congratz for your good points
    Congratz for your good points bcoz they are helping alot!

    1. We are so glad to hear that,
      We are so glad to hear that, David!

  22. eye opener. it can get very
    eye opener. it can get very painfull.

    1. Hi Lucy,

      Hi Lucy,
      we hope this can make it a little less painful!

  23. Wat am I suppose to do if I
    Wat am I suppose to do if I still love him,we stop talking for almost a year currently we hv bn chatting and talking but I doubt if he love me

    1. Hi Emmy,

      Hi Emmy,
      follow your heart. If you don’t think he loves you, he probably doesn’t. And if that’s what you feel, stop talking to him, there is a high risk of you getting hurt again!

    1. That’s great to hear, thanks!
      That’s great to hear, thanks!

  24. Hi admin i had a gal but i
    Hi admin i had a gal but i left her before having coitus with her coz she waz after ma money and not ma luv so can i also refer to her as ma ex?

    1. Sure! If you have been in a
      Sure! If you have been in a relationship with her, and you have broken up, then she is your ex. Sex doesn’t have anything to do with that.

  25. i jst stopped communicating
    i jst stopped communicating with him lyk 2 weeks ago and i c its working.

    1. Hi Masoud,

      Hi Masoud,
      we hope you told him that you are breaking up with him before going silent…

  26. I breakup with my ex and i
    I breakup with my ex and i told him its ok we can still be friends and he agree then he change his mind and ask if we can be 2gether again and i agree bt i realized he doesn’t love me coz he still have contact with his ex now i want to get over him to be my past thanks alot now i have a solution

    1. We are glad we could help,
      We are glad we could help, Suzy!

  27. It took me two years but
    It took me two years but finally i moved on,,

    1. That’s great Dory, we are
      That’s great Dory, we are glad to hear that!

  28. i broke up with my first love
    i broke up with my first love 6yrs back he even got married bt whenever we meet just by chance the feelings rush back and it hurts…i nid a lasting solution pliz

    1. Joyce,

      Joyce,
      it’s possible that a little bit of pain will remain forever. But you have to move on. Did you consider to start looking for a new partner?

  29. Love Matters U R Great Guys
    Love Matters U R Great Guys,ryt Nw Am In A Bad Situation Of Partong Wid Ma Ex,the Other Day Was Crying Wondering Wat To Do,wat I Did Is I Encouraged Ma Self Nd Also Confronted That “am Not The First One To Be Left,so Far There Are Many Nd They Are Still Leaving”i Felt Gud Nd Vry Peaceful Coz Atlst I Felt Healed Frm Wat I Was Feeling.Thnx

    1. Thanks for sharing your story
      Thanks for sharing your story with us!

  30. taking gud care of my body
    taking gud care of my body,busying ariund wid those who makes me smile and avoiding contacting him brought me out of th whole situation n am smilling this big….thank u

    1. Hi Betty,

      Hi Betty,
      yep, that’s really the best way to go!

  31. Am moved by this…. proud to
    Am moved by this…. proud to be a member….

    1. We are glad to hear that!
      We are glad to hear that!

  32. its so hard to forget someone
    its so hard to forget someone whom u truly cared for,,,,am tryin to follow these tips bt it aint easy. why do people we love hurt us this much???

    1. Hi Kathy,

      Hi Kathy,
      it’s not just just not easy, it’s really, really, really hard! But hang in there, you will come out a stronger person!

  33. iluv ma x so much bt praying
    iluv ma x so much bt praying to GOD iget ova it

    1. We will send positive
      We will send positive thoughts your way, Asha!

  34. How do I get rid of her
    How do I get rid of her number that I crammed of head so that I never get tempted to talk to her again

    1. That’s a really good question
      That’s a really good question, Stephen. Hm. Try to never, ever think of it, and one day, it will be gone?! We don’t know…

  35. we brake up for the past 3
    we brake up for the past 3 months and the guy is always threatening me nd followng my foot steps. hav decide to move on wit my lfe wit a nother guy bt he keeps on callng dat guy wherever we ar together wit the other guy. wat will i do

    1. Yvonne,

      Yvonne,
      having someone threaten you is not good. Discuss this with your ex, preferably with someone else there. He needs to understand that it’s over, and that what he is doing won’t change your mind. He needs to understand that he is not respecting your decisions, but that he needs to! Good luck!

  36. I accepted wht happened n i
    I accepted wht happened n i moved on..

    1. Good, we are glad to hear
      Good, we are glad to hear that, Patrick!

  37. good work guyz .am also going
    good work guyz .am also going through that now is one week i broke up with my man but niuchugu sana

    1. Hi Ann,

      Hi Ann,
      sending you lots of strength, but you will be fine.

  38. my x really hurted me n that
    my x really hurted me n that can drive out of my mind. i got pregnant, so i had to tell him. instead of being closer to me,, he turned his back on me and by then i ws studying in campus. i had to look for alternative then……. i had to risk my life bcz of him n i wonder if i will ever 4give n 4get him. ..

  39. my x really hurted me n that
    my x really hurted me n that can drive out of my mind. i got pregnant, so i had to tell him. instead of being closer to me,, he turned his back on me and by then i ws studying in campus. i had to look for alternative then……. i had to risk my life bcz of him n i wonder if i will ever 4give n 4get him. ..

    1. Hi Jullie,

      Hi Jullie,
      forgive and forget- probably not. But maybe that’s not a bad thing. Because that might protect you from getting hurt too much in the future. All the best- you’ve come a long way already!

  40. i still feel the wounds of
    i still feel the wounds of love,but i’ll go with your statement.

    1. Go for it, Brian, good luck!
      Go for it, Brian, good luck!

  41. 4 me I HV a baby with her n
    4 me I HV a baby with her n so it means I can’t curt communication completely ,advise pliz…

    1. Hi Karis,

      Hi Karis,
      that’s indeed a different situation. You do need to keep communicating, but try to keep it related to the baby. Be nice to her, but keep your distance.
      Just think about her, and I’m sure you will be figure out how to deal with the situation. After all, you were in a relationship, and you do know her well.

  42. We have mutual friends like
    We have mutual friends like my bestfriend is married to his bestfriend n we sometimes hook up n end up having sex…I still love him n he says he still loves me but the thing is as much as I want us to get back together am scared of getting hurt again n am still hurting upto now….I try avoiding him calling or texting him but whenever he texts I text back…I don’t know what yo do to move on….

    1. Hi Luciey,

      Hi Luciey,
      if you really want to move on, get away from him. By having sex occasionally, you are not making things any better. If you want to get over him, avoid him, even on those occasions you run into him.
      But, let me ask: if you both love each other, than maybe you can start a relationship again? We don’t know what happened, but maybe you can get over your differences.

  43. We have mutual friends like
    We have mutual friends like my bestfriend is married to his bestfriend n we sometimes hook up n end up having sex…I still love him n he says he still loves me but the thing is as much as I want us to get back together am scared of getting hurt again n am still hurting upto now….I try avoiding him calling or texting him but whenever he texts I text back…I don’t know what yo do to move on….

  44. to stop communicatn and lookn
    to stop communicatn and lookn his
    facebook profile has really worked for me

    1. Hi Mary,

      Hi Mary,
      great, and thanks for sharing!

  45. Theas this housegal of ours
    Theas this housegal of ours that has been into my ex even wen we were in a rltnship then i guess my ex strted takin advntge of the situation bcoz he suspected that too.so wen i asked if they had smthn together he claimed that i liked being vry suspicios of thngs that do not exist nd said that she was only a frnd bt when i read her messages i knew they were into each other so i had to breakup with him just beacoz of her.so i gve them space.smtimes i fill lyk killing this gal bcoz even after introducing them together i never thot that she could do such a terrible act.i loved her like my own relative bcoz i even introduced her to all my friendz as my cousin bt shes just a maid nd i now hte her with a passion.i even tld her how i would despise any frnd who would befriend my boyfrnd even if he was my ex bt this gal is so daring.she even broke upwith her ex just to get close to him.plz advise me befre i do anythng stupid

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,

      you need to take a deep breath. You realize that you broke her trust and invaded her privacy by reading her messages.
      And remember there are two people to this. Your ex and the house girl. So don’t just focus all your anger on her.
      It seems like you are not over the relationship, and you feel like you have been betrayed by both. You need to work on that, and stop blaming the others.
      Move on with your life. It might not be easy, but you need to work on this.
      You can do it. Good luck!

  46. Hi,am finding it sooo hard
    Hi,am finding it sooo hard,taff n dffclt bcz she is jst a neighbour of mine,she comes to our haos almst evry dei,we shop in da same shop,we fetch water in da sem place,evrydei we meet,am jst totaly trpd plz hlp me,

  47. Hi,am finding it sooo hard
    Hi,am finding it sooo hard,taff n dffclt bcz she is jst a neighbour of mine,she comes to our haos almst evry dei,we shop in da same shop,we fetch water in da sem place,evrydei we meet,am jst totaly trpd plz hlp me,

    1. Nelson,

      Nelson,
      try to change your habits. If you usually meet her at the shop in the morning, go in the afternoon. Or, if that is an option, try a different shop. Try to stay out of her way where ever you can.

  48. Wow!!!dts grt thng to do,a
    Wow!!!dts grt thng to do,a prms to follow this instrctns,thnks sooo much:-):-):-)

    1. You are most welcome, Nelson!
      You are most welcome, Nelson!

  49. No contact,no msg,playing
    No contact,no msg,playing games & being in midst of friends.

  50. wt mostly helpt me wit my
    wt mostly helpt me wit my break up ws i jst cried it out wen i felt lik crying n jst prayd n left it all at th feet of God trust me God givs th stregth wen u week n u need his help thts wr i did n now am hapy

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  51. i slept with mai x n later
    i slept with mai x n later mai guy discovered…wen he asked mii i igreed i deed n gt furioused alt …he got apset n said its over… unto me i rily n still lv him.its nao three months n i cnt get him out f mai minds…… hao can you help me becoz i do regret wat i deed

    1. Katei,

      Katei,
      You cheated on him and now you want his trust back. That’s a tough thing to get over.
      You will need lots of patience in order to get him back, and you might fail.

  52. If you love something/someone
    If you love something/someone let it go,if it returns its yours if it doesn’t it was never ment to be.

    1. Thanks for this, Taizz.
      Thanks for this, Taizz.

  53. thnx alot for da advice..here
    thnx alot for da advice..here comes a situation where i hav been in two relationships consecutively n i hav come out so much hurt.i feel hopeless,confused n frustrated..i really need to come back to myself.what should i do?

  54. 4me i chngd evrythng that
    4me i chngd evrythng that reminded m,ov him thn i blcklistd him n blocked him in my social network page n am nw movin on

    1. Thanks for sharing, Mary!
      Thanks for sharing, Mary!

  55. I asked many question but
    I asked many question but neva saw my answer becouse their id no notification

    1. Sorry Abdi, we generally
      Sorry Abdi, we generally reply to all questions, but we get so many that we can’t tell you where they are. Have a look around, maybe you can find them.

  56. thenx for advice..nimekuwa
    thenx for advice..nimekuwa kwa tht problem for one month now and nilikuwa nimesidwa to stop callng him and textng him altho he was nt taking ma calls or relpng ma text.God bless for tht advice you pray a big aprt in ma life

    1. Njoki,

      Njoki,
      did something happen before he stopped taking your calls? Have you had a fight?

  57. Its really hard coz we work
    Its really hard coz we work together am not texting or calling him but we always bumb into each other wats the best thing to do coz evrytime I see him I feel I still do love him I hate him but I love him wat should I do

    1. So sorry to hear this is what
      So sorry to hear this is what you are going through.
      Try your very best to keep all contact, even at work, to a minimum. Speak strictly about work, and don’t interact otherwise as much as possible.
      It will take a lot longer to get over him if you constantly see each other. But you can do it! Good luck!

  58. May be tis person wasnt the
    May be tis person wasnt the right one for u because smetimes God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right ones so tat wen we finally meet with the right person we will know hw to be greatfull for that gift

    1. Thanks for your input Luis!
      Thanks for your input Luis!

  59. I didn’t block him nor
    I didn’t block him nor deleted his number but I cleared all text messages and say to myself that he has gone and gone for ever and when he started crying his eyes out like I did…
    I never listen to him again bcus I have learn to live without him

    1. Sandra,

      Sandra,
      thanks for sharing your approach with us!

  60. ilav my ex cnt even 4gt abt
    ilav my ex cnt even 4gt abt him

  61. I never knew there is such an
    I never knew there is such an inspiring group to attach maself with,,, am glad indeed good work kudoooz

  62. Ts three months now every
    Ts three months now every time I convince myself v moved on but every time am alone all I do is cry. Am so bitter n angry I just don’t know how to get rid of that. all I want is call him n yell scream n subject my anger to him. After reading your advice the only vnt done is talking to someone

    1. Talk to someone, then 🙂

      Talk to someone, then 🙂
      And maybe yell into your phone- yell out all the things you want him to know. Just don’t dial his number before you start yelling!

  63. my x aborted my baby without
    my x aborted my baby without my consent. i 4gave ad loves her alot but wen i txt ad call her she never replie. should i leave her ad luk 4 a new cach. hlp pliz!?

    1. Dan, sorry to hear you and
      Dan, sorry to hear you and your partner are going through this. The most important question is, what do you want to do? Think about it and when you decide take action.

  64. If you have a child with a
    If you have a child with a guy and you wnt to break up with him what will you do

    1. Joy a child should not be the
      Joy a child should not be the reason you stay in misery. If you want to get out of a relationship you do that. When you are happy you take better care of yourself and other as opposed to when you are sad.

  65. I broke up with my ex..its
    I broke up with my ex..its been 3mnths now….bt I can’t get him out of ma mind n heart…I still think of him I keep stalking his facebook page….av tried not to..bt I get myself doing it I blocked him bt I get myself unblocking him….I still feel I love him…though I feel hatred too..bt deepdown I have so much pain

    1. Delete all his numbers and
      Delete all his numbers and find partner

      1. Thanks for your input John.
        Thanks for your input John.

    2. your case resembles mine,,,,
      your case resembles mine,,,, its four months since i broke up with my best friend a sister, a mother and above all the love of mah life. i leave the rest to God may be one day i’ll get a perfect substitute

      1. Sorry to hear that Kenn. As
        Sorry to hear that Kenn. As you said you will find someone else better.

    3. Vivian you need to completely
      Vivian you need to completely stop stalking him. You are just torturing yourself and making it impossible to move on. Its ok to still miss him and feel the love because it doesn’t go away because you broke up. You need to give yourself time and space to heal and move on. Read our article on coping with a break up it will help https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/coping-break

  66. I broke up with my girlfriend
    I broke up with my girlfriend last 4 month and she told me 2 leave her even nt 2 txt her bt she sometimes txt me asking hw am doing what is this?

    1. She could be Missing you
      She could be Missing you Heinz since not everything in your relationship was bad. If you want to move on you need to cut communication until when you feel you no longer need the space or moved on.

  67. my cousin engineered our
    my cousin engineered our break up,and then started dating my ex,fortunately I flew out of the country,though we used to chat,she confessed they had sex with my cousin,I loved her still,we kept constant communication,.when I came back I ignored everything went ahead visited her,we had sex,I was not able to do more than one…I think I was mentally and psychologically withdrawn,…and that was the end. ..I no longer feel her,I have now moved on and feel completely okay.

    1. Thanks Steve for sharing
      Thanks Steve for sharing your story.

  68. Its been 3+ yrs and am still
    Its been 3+ yrs and am still so hurting! Especially now that my friends are getting married! I feel I wasted my youth, time and myself!

    1. Hi Betty, the worst thing you
      Hi Betty, the worst thing you can do when you are trying to move on is compare yourself with others. You need to treat your experience as a lesson and use it to grow and become a better person as opposed to seeing it as wasted time.

  69. Its The Hardest Thing To Do,
    Its The Hardest Thing To Do, It Took Me A Year And Plus I Tried Getting Myself In Other Relations To Get Ova Him But I Faild Till A Took A One Year Break Away From Any Relationships To Heal And Now Am Over Him I Thnk It Work For Any One Too

    1. Hi Mildred thank you for
      Hi Mildred thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  70. I have a baby girl, two years
    I have a baby girl, two years old, l love her mother. She promise that we will get married in order to suport our child. For a few month she have been off, she’s on but she don’t take my calls. I love her and baby, WHAT TO I DO?

    1. Hi Mukulo, have you tried to
      Hi Mukulo, have you tried to ask her why she is doing that?

  71. i had a friend whom i told
    i had a friend whom i told that i love and she knew it. She would otherwise not respond to what i told her yet i truly loved her. When we separated she said it was over and she needed a break. Am confused coy i still love her. Did she love me?

  72. I broke up with my guy on
    I broke up with my guy on 24th very early, i feel more irritate, i keep watching everything he’s doing in fb n still watching him in wasap, i can’t keep off coz i feel love for him, i feel bad too to beg him to come back coz he may think em desperate, i still love him bt there’s still have a passion of hatred

    1. Preci you need to stop
      Preci you need to stop torturing yourself by following his every move. If anything you need to cut all ties and contact, that way it will be easier for you to deal with the break up. You need space away from him so stalking him won’t help you. Read our article on how to cope with a break up it will help you https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/coping-break

  73. I Married My Ex Not More Than
    I Married My Ex Not More Than 3yrs And We Have Only One Daughter.He Always Beat Me And Didn’t Have Respect For My People He Always Cal His Girl Friend In My Present He Didn’t Have Feeling 4 Me At All I Was Thinking Dat He Didn’t Love Me. I Packed My Things Out Of His Home With My 2ys Child He Begged Me For 3months But I Don’t Want To Marry Him Again The Following Month, Another Lady Pack To His Home Living With Him. After 8months, I Started Dreaming About My Ex. He Want Me To Come Back Promise To Send The Lady Out. What Can I Do?

    1. Hi Butic, congrats for taking
      Hi Butic, congrats for taking the step of leaving him. That was bold and courageous. He is a cheater and a woman beater and honestly you deserve better than that. Stick to your ground and move on with your life, you deserve to be with someone who appreciates you. There is someone better for you out there.

  74. am going through that hard
    am going through that hard time,I really love my ex n its hard to forget
    him,I dream of him,thinking of him every time,pls help mi how I can forget about him,am confused

  75. I broke up wit my ex like
    I broke up wit my ex like 6months bt after a while I found my self wit him again it had become lyk a routine ….as for now want him out of my entire life….av really tried nt to contact him bt it didn’t work….

  76. i stopped communicating wth
    i stopped communicating wth ma ex,i cld i ignore his calls n text n he helped me alot by blocking me ….now its a yr snce we broke up n he needs me terribly yet ae moved on n hav a swthat whom i adore so much….ma ex reminds me of past moments whch haunts ma life much….how do i tel hm in a beta way that we belong to the past

    1. Hi ,there is no need of
      Hi ,there is no need of telling him verbally, if you have moved on, he will realize that on his own.

  77. thanx alot…u have helped me
    thanx alot…u have helped me out with my issue..i was hurt by an x n ur ideas worked out perfectly.am now very happy.thnx once again

    1. Yay ! We are very happy that
      Yay ! We are very happy that we could be of help Wallace. Spread the good word. 🙂

  78. i’ve been in a fling and i
    i’ve been in a fling and i tell you, you cannot love someone more than you can miss them. it was time she went and i was practically losing ma mind. in my mind the phone kept ringing, and messages flowed in. nightmares all night. a change of environment did me great! i had to cut short my internship just so that i could get that much needed space. and with time it got hazy and lesser and lesser painful.

    1. Thanks Paul for sharing your
      Thanks Paul for sharing your experience.

  79. it’s now three years down the
    it’s now three years down the line and I have not been able to move in to another relationship. I’ve not met the man who can fill that space he left in my heart. he went for another girl broke up and now he is with another one. all these don’t make me give up but I still believe I will get him back in to my life. I don’t call neither do I massage him bt I still dream of him I don’t know why

    1. Hi Mary, the reason you haven
      Hi Mary, the reason you haven’t been able to find someone else on its because you have never let go of him and therefore never moved on. If you truly want to stop stagnating and move on with your life like he has, you need to let go of him and the false hope that you have. What happens if he gets married to someone else? will you still wait for him?

  80. hi guyz… it reaches a point
    hi guyz… it reaches a point where I think of never getting into a rlshp again. my Xs do the same thing to me. whenever I trespass to their watup n FB I find them sex charting with other dudes ot even exchanging nude pics.this rilly pisses me off n it rilly hurts. then after confronting them they all hav the same behaviour of crying n claiming if I leave them they will kill themselves, of which they dont do it. bt now current x did the same mistake bt she keeps pleading for forgivness n claiming never to repeat that. I dont think whether I can trust any lady now. plizzzzz I nid ur advice.am I the problem or them????? and the way am a faithful man, for sure it really hurts soo much. advice plizzz

    1. Wow Tim, that must be
      Wow Tim, that must be difficult to go through. The truth is you are a faithful man and therefore they are the problem not you. You just need time to heal and get over that. You will meet someone who is as faithful as you because they are many out there. All the best.

  81. Hi guys

    Hi guys
    Its a good work you guys are doing and very helpfull and also educating
    Though I may also have a problem as we all are humans and we’re not perfect
    My girlfriend and I had a very healthy relationship that was as close as into family recognition but I made one mistake that even today I can’t forgive myself for it ruined everything that we had build for 2 years. But then I plead to my girlfriend which she accepted my apologies but the problem comes that she’s still stuck into what happened in the past,everytime we come into a misunderstanding she would immediately reffer me back to the past mistake which pisses me off more and I feel like she’s holding grudges with me. So lately I felt insecured as for now we’re in a distance relationship ( she’s in Kenya and am in UAE working ) I decided to give each other some space although now its killing me because now I can rely tell my feelings that I was and I am still desperately in love with her but she seems not to care,since wen I called it off she has never bothered calling or texting or even asking people we know but I still do love her deeply. Now am confused cause its hard to read her mind anymore,

    1. Hi Aly, sorry that you are
      Hi Aly, sorry that you are going through that. Sorry to tell you but you are going through the grief of break up. You just need to give your self time to go through the emotions and you will be better in time. It sounds as though she has moved on and you should probably think about doing the same.

  82. We will try though it ain’t…
    We will try though it ain’t easy especially to those who have been dating for a long period of time like 7 years and above.But atleast I got something. Thank you.

  83. how can i heal when am…
    how can i heal when am working with my ex.i see her on daily basis??

    1. Hi Dennis, 

      It can be very…

      Hi Dennis, 

      It can be very awkward to work with someone after a breakup. While many people avoid their exes, it is hard if you work together. The trick is to work towards having a healthy professional relationship. Try controlling your emotions at work and focus on being great at your job. If you put all your energy at work, you’ll find you have less time to worry about your ex. In terms of healing, here is an article that can help you heal: Tips on how to cope with a breakup

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