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Premature ejaculation: I come too soon

A few disappointing sexual encounters and unsatisfied women later, Thomas is very embarrassed about ejaculating prematurely.

‘I was twenty when I first had sex with my then-girlfriend, Natalie. It had just been a minute and I came. We both laughed it off, saying that the excitement of doing it for the first time must have been too much. But I came equally soon when we had sex for the second time that night.
However, since both of us were inexperienced, we didn’t realise it was a problem. We were a couple for two years until I decided to break up with her.

‘Natalie was predictably upset and we had a heated argument during which she said, “At least I can now find a real man who will satisfy me!” When I asked her what she meant by that she scornfully said, “My girlfriends have a good laugh every time I tell them you’re the true definition of a quickie. You come before we even get started! I stayed with you only because I felt sorry for you. Good luck finding a woman and keeping her!'”

Angry, depressed, and embarrassed

‘Despite being aware that a lot of what Natalie said came from a place of anger, I also knew, deep down, she wasn’t far from the truth. The few times we had had sex (we did it like once a month because it was hard to find a place or she was travelling for work frequently), I would come in a matter of seconds after penetration.

‘After breaking up with her, I went on a quite a few dates and some of them ended with sex.

Unfortunately, each time I came too soon and once I even came before I could manage to penetrate. None of those women called me ever again!

‘I was depressed, angry, and so embarrassed that I just stopped dating. I didn’t want to face rejection and humiliation. I couldn’t stand being made fun of. My social life was me sitting in front of the television every night either drinking or eating myself to sleep. To make matters worse, all of my friends were in relationships or going out on dates.’

A common problem

‘Thanks to some internet research I figured out my problem is called premature ejaculation (PE) but I was too much of “man” to go to a doctor. Eventually, better sense prevailed and I went to a doctor to discuss my PE problem. I was so self-conscious and terrified of speaking about something so personal.

‘Luckily the doctor sensed I was uncomfortable and put me at ease. Once I started talking I couldn’t stop. To my relief, he said PE was a problem he deals with often and different types of treatment work for different people. We started with counselling and techniques I could use while having sex as well as certain medications I could try if nothing else worked.

‘It took me months to get to a point where I felt confident about my skills in the bedroom. However, I wisely worked on other ways to pleasure my sexual partners such as foreplay and oral sex. And now I have a wonderful and most understanding girlfriend and we are enjoying the sex as well as our journey together!’


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  1. do size of dick matter when
    do size of dick matter when it comes to satisfaction?

  2. Can STIs cause effect to
    Can STIs cause effect to ejaculation.

    1. Hi Wicky,

      Hi Wicky,
      hm, not really. Why do you ask, do you suspect something could be wrong?

    2. You are doing amazing work!…
      You are doing amazing work! Thanks for sharing your wonderful posts. I’m not pornstar, but I’ve read quite a bit about this. Ssri’s are used to treat pe (Premature EjacuIation) and one particuIar drug that’s used by pornstars aIongside, or even in the same piII as ciaIis or vi@gra is a drug caIIed ‘dapoxetine’ which works extremeIy weII. Very happy ? I found ‘Dap247Tap’ in googIe and got dapox. I have used it in the past and was abIe to Iast weII over 2 hours without any desire to ejacuIate!

      1. Hello Danny, thank you so…

        Hello Danny, thank you so much for sharing your story with us buddy! Have a wonderful rest of the week and stay safe!

  3. me too i av that problem,til
    me too i av that problem,til now my two girlfriends have left me

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      we hope you could find some leads in the article that will help you.

    2. How to Deal with Premature
      How to Deal with Premature Ejaculation
      ByRuth K. WestheimerandPierre A. Lehu
      7 of 8 in Series: The Essentials of Sexual Orgasms
      Prematureejaculationis a common but stressful concern, and not just among young men. A premature ejaculator can’t keep himself from ejaculating (or “coming”) before he wants to. The cause is not physical, but mental. In other words, it’s not the man’s penis that is “malfunctioning,” but his brain. The upside is that a man can learn how to control hisorgasmsand avoid premature ejaculation with time and discipline.
      As with many sexual dysfunctions, different degrees of premature ejaculation exist. Some men are so severely afflicted that they can’t last long enough to penetrate a woman for intercourse. But even a man who can last 15 minutes may fall under the umbrella of premature ejaculator if he wants to last 5 extra minutes and can’t do so. The time frame depends on the man.
      The penis of a man who hasn’t beencircumcisedis often more sensitive than a circumcised man’s. That said, no scientific study has shown that circumcision makes a significant difference. Most certainly a man who isn’t circumcised can learn how to prolong his climax just as effectively as a man who is.
      Home remedies
      Home remedies are generally not recommended. (Why not try to discover how to take control of the situation altogether so you can fully enjoy and engage in intercourse?) That said, people have all sorts of ideas about what he can do to make himself last longer before seeking professional help. As you may expect, the results are mixed.
      *.
      The baseball technique:Think of something that isn’t sexy. This technique can work to some degree, but it’s not a good way of making love. Your partner may sense that wall you put between you and the act and think that you want to distance yourself from her.
      *.
      Condoms:Condoms cut down on the sensations that a man has. If one condom doesn’t work, then put on two or more. Although using two condoms may decrease a man’s sensation, it also decreases condom effectiveness — so unless your partner is using another method ofbirthcontroland you’re bothSTD-free, don’t try this technique.
      *.
      Over-the-counter products:Some products supposedly lessen the sensations in the penis so the man can last longer.
      *.
      Masturbation:Some young men masturbate before going out on a date that may lead to sex. The object here is to decrease the intensity of their desire for sex in the hopes of gaining some control.
      *.
      Different positions:Themissionaryposition(when the man is on top) is probably the one in which men have the most problems, but not always.
      The real cure: Recognizing thepremonitorysensation
      The real cure for premature ejaculation is for you to be able to recognize thepremonitory sensation —the feeling a man gets just before he reaches the point of no return, also called the moment of inevitability. Right before he reaches that point, if he so desires, he can cool the fires and not ejaculate. And if he wants to abandon his status as premature ejaculator, he must learn to identify this sensation.
      The idea, then, is to learn how to slow down the process before you get too close to the edge. You can do this with a cooperative partner or, although it takes more effort and self-control, by yourself. The technique itself is very simple, but it involves some discipline, and that discipline’s not always so simple.
      The start-stop technique
      Learn how to recognize the premonitory sensation and stop before you get to the point of inevitability. You do this by slowly increasing your level of arousal, stopping, allowing yourself to calm down, and then heading back upward again. Some people advise assigning numbers to the levels, from 1 to 10, with 10 being the point of no return. If that numbering system helps you, fine. If it distracts you, then just concentrate on the sensations.
      For a couple, the woman should use her hand to arouse the man and stops the motion when he signals her to. Slowly, he begins to exercise more and more control. Depending on the man, this whole process can take a few weeks or a few months, but the process is almost always successful if done with discipline and without engaging in actual intercourse until full control is achieved.
      Some men get impatient upon initial early success. They decide to engage in full intercourse before they’ve cemented their control. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn’t. When the technique doesn’t work, they’re disappointed, and some men even give up entirely.
      The Masters and Johnson squeeze technique
      Rather than merely stopping stimulation to the penis, the man’s partner gently squeezes thefrenumof the penis (the strip of skin connecting theglansto the shaft on the underside of the penis) until the man loses his urge to ejaculate. Because the start-stop technique is usually effective, the squeeze technique isn’t as commonly used.
      Another usefulaidin controlling premature ejaculation can be the pubococcygeus (PC)muscle, which, when squeezed, has a similar effect to the woman squeezing the base of the penis. The first thing you have to do is find this muscle. Put a finger behind yourtesticles. Pretend that you’re going to urinate and then stop yourself. You’ll feel a muscle tighten, and that’s your PC muscle. If you exercise this muscle regularly, by squeezing it in sets of ten, it will get stronger, and you can then use it to help control your ejaculations.

  4. I thing always rise in a
    I thing always rise in a second of sexual touch and I come during a few seconds of foreplay….pls I need some help

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      sounds like what happened to the guy in the article. Maybe you should do what he did?

  5. I dated my girlfriend for
    I dated my girlfriend for five month, we loved each other soo much to the extent of promising marriage to each other. We often go outings and one day I begged her to visit me and she promised to make a suprise for me one day. As time went on, one day I begged her to come and we enjoy sex but what shocked me is that this girl hated me for two weeks and she couldn’t pick my calls one day I tried to talk to her so that I can appologise but she couldn’t give me a chance. So for that matter I need your advise. What can I do to approach her because I love her so much. Thanks.

    1. Hi Damasen,

      Hi Damasen,
      so you proposed sex to her and she hated you for it? Sorry to hear that.
      You need to get in touch with her somehow. If she doesn’t pick your calls, try other ways, send her an email, or a letter, or talk to a mutual friend and try to reach her that way.
      All you can do is to try to apologize again, and make her see how much she means to you.
      Good luck!

    2. Maybe she was not ready to
      Maybe she was not ready to have sex and somehow she felt like you forced her into it. I was once like that but my reason was being that I was sexually abused when I was still young and the sexual encounter brought back painful memories. I do not know what the case is when it comes to your girlfriend but the only way to find out is to talk to her and talking to her might provoke her even more. try sending her an email as suggested and when you are done give her some space to cool down, remember to let her know that whatever it is you will be there for her and you will help her however you can because I personally believe that this is more emotional than it seems and please don’t be angry with her. I know that she loves you, just give her some time she will come right.

    3. to me for the first time on
      to me for the first time on penetration i came very first but second ….. third……. it takes minutes.do i have any P.E problem???/

      1. Hi,

        Hi,
        could be.
        Train yourself. Relax, and try to hold on as long as you can. Stop all movement before you come, and wait for the urge to ease. And then start again.

    1. Hi Mark,

      Hi Mark,
      read towards the end of the article, and you will find out 🙂

  6. I’ve a pre-nature ejaculation
    I’ve a pre-nature ejaculation problem that i don’t bother myself now to go into dating again

    1. Hi Terwase,
      good for you!

      Hi Terwase,
      good for you!

  7. i also had that problem but
    i also had that problem but with time,it wasnt a problem again.it is all about our mind when we are making love.just try and train ua mind that u will ejaculate afta some minutes but not immediately(for round 1).it actually worked on my side

    1. Hi Karuru,

      Hi Karuru,
      thanks for sharing your story!

  8. I’m experiencing the same
    I’m experiencing the same problem and i wish i could get help too

    1. Hi Big Guy,

      Hi Big Guy,
      maybe you should also discuss this with a doctor, like the guy in the story.

  9. I would like u 2 assist me,
    I would like u 2 assist me, ok i am 20 yrs old i have a girl frend, bt my problm is that, every tyme we meet , & starting chating, bt nimekuwa na shida ya kila time nikimuguza huwa nimwaga sperm as soon, 2kienda kwa bed bado huwa na mwaga, iam ok please

    1. Hi Eli,

      Hi Eli,
      read through the story, I’m sure you can pick up some pointers!

  10. my penis doesn’t arouse
    my penis doesn’t arouse everytime i want to have sex with my gf,but it does when i try to do it with someone else.whats my problem?

    1. Hi Ben,

      Hi Ben,
      don’t stress over it. By stressing, your chances of getting an erection are smaller. Maybe you had one experience that made you doubt yourself, and this is still haunting you?

  11. I also had the same problem
    I also had the same problem bt i came to improve as time passed by.My problem is size!!!! hw can i increase it?

    1. Hi Ben,

      Hi Ben,

      Why are you low esteem on your penis size? Are you worried you are not performing well in bed? Normally performance issues have more to do with confidence than penis size.

      Not to mention that size is relative. What is big for some is small for others and vise versa. Everyone’s bodies are different and it is more about how they come together, not stand alone. Sex is pleasurable when there is a chemistry between two people, when emotions are being shared and good communication. Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. Experiment, you never know what will happen until you try and communication always leads to better sex.

      Check out these articles about penis size and love making:
      https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/big-penis-what-women-want

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/erections-vary-size-and-angle

  12. what should i do if i have
    what should i do if i have such a problem?

    1. Hi Nicks,

      Hi Nicks,
      read through the article, it will give you all the information you need!

  13. hi my penis does not get hard
    hi my penis does not get hard enough and points down when erect its sperms are not white enaf

  14. I wanna know if 2 rounds is
    I wanna know if 2 rounds is enough……

    1. Hi Amos,

      Hi Amos,
      yes, absolutely! When it comes to sex, quality is so much better than quantity. One great time, with foreplay, maybe some oral, intercourse, orgasms for both and afterplay is faaaaaaaaar better than three, four hurried rounds.

  15. sex should start
    sex should start psychologically in your mind before you get to bed with her.take some time kissing and carerasing and dont just rush to penetration,let her yearn for it.After penetration remove your penis and allow her hold it in her arm 4 some seconds b4 you get it back.You will take a longer time bfo ejaculating.This is what i do and it works for me.

    1. Hi Lipeal,

      Hi Lipeal,
      thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences!

  16. wht do i do becuse my manhood
    wht do i do becuse my manhood is too smal and i can satisfy my girlfriend

    1. Hi Iabaran,

      Hi Iabaran,

      Why are you low esteem on your penis size? Are you worried you are not performing well in bed? Normally performance issues have more to do with confidence than penis size.

      Not to mention that size is relative. What is big for some is small for others and vise versa. Everyone’s bodies are different and it is more about how they come together, not stand alone. Sex is pleasurable when there is a chemistry between two people, when emotions are being shared and good communication. Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. Experiment, you never know what will happen until you try and communication always leads to better sex.

      Check out these articles about penis size and love making:
      https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/big-penis-what-women-want

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/erections-vary-size-and-angle

      https://lovematters.co.ke/news/penises-enlarge-or-not-enlarge

  17. Don’t be extremist done
    Don’t be extremist done

    1. Hi Coo,

      Hi Coo,
      it can, absolutely. You can train yourself to last longer.

  18. do masterbation reduce the
    do masterbation reduce the size of your penis or ruduces esteem to sex? n does it have any effects?

  19. my penis goes off after the
    my penis goes off after the first ejaculation and no matter how i try it cant be hard again help me

    1. Hi Muchui,

      Hi Muchui,

      This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  20. I have been dating a girl and
    I have been dating a girl and av realised when we make love and she gets to climax..she urinates…is this true or her cum is too much..

  21. Hi, i have a problem whereby
    Hi, i have a problem whereby i have been feeling some pains on my testes for the past week. I have noticed tht the size of my testes have drastically reduced. what could be the course of the problem….plz help.

    1. Hi Rey,

      Hi Rey,
      we suggest you see a doctor about this, as making an accurate diagnosis based on this little information and without seeing it is impossible. Good luck!

  22. hi,,i really feel pain and
    hi,,i really feel pain and extreme pain in my testicles whenever i engage in a foreplay with my lady but fails to penetrate her,,or in short failing to have penetrative sex,,coz of one or two reasons,,,is this normal

    1. Hi Erick,

      Hi Erick,
      please see a doctor about this. There could be a problem, but a medical professional will be able to assess this in person.

  23. what is the prblm when my
    what is the prblm when my erection is nt that so strong whenever i want to have sex???

    1. Hi Ezek,

      Hi Ezek,
      what do you mean when you say ‘not so strong’?

  24. What føød shoul one take to
    What føød shoul one take to improve sex performance?

  25. does all the women squirt??
    does all the women squirt?? or is it specific on kinds of women

    1. Hi Tyga,

      Hi Tyga,
      no, not all women will squirt.

  26. premature ejaculation is very
    premature ejaculation is very normal especially if u are new in sex life and should never be a wory. just lyk one deals with the 1st time sex expirience, so u can deal with it. it only requires calmness of mind. Take as much time as possible caresing each other, do not hurry, after entry, take a minute kissing before the in and out movement or doung it lightly. finally when u begin the real movement be into it, i mean do not make ur mind wonder about, calm urself , this can be aided by communication btn the two of u. dont thnk of the past experrience . This worked for me so i hope it do for u.
    always remember sex is lyke education and so u need confidence to achieve the best

    1. Hi Kenna,

      Hi Kenna,
      thanks for sharing your experience.

  27. i,,i really feel pain and
    i,,i really feel pain and extreme pain in my testicles whenever i engage in a foreplay with my lady but fails to penetrate her,,or in short failing to have penetrative sex,,coz of one or two reasons,,,is this normal

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      please see a doctor about this- pain is never normal, and you should have this checked out?

  28. i have promblem with
    i have promblem with masturbation can it affect my fertility if done for so long maybe seven to eight years?

    1. Hi Ghettoman,

      Hi Ghettoman,
      don’t worry, masturbation will not affect your fertility, In fact, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life!

  29. how can you help someone with
    how can you help someone with poor erections in that you do erect but not for long

    1. Hi Dickson,

      Hi Dickson,
      before your erection goes, do you ejaculate?

  30. i happen that i lost one
    i happen that i lost one testies medical problem pliz help mie how to get a lady and have children

    1. Hi Talson,

      Hi Talson,
      having one testicle doesn’t necessarily affect your ability to have great sex or to have children. It would be best if you discussed this with a doctor who is familiar with your situation, and will be able to tell you more 🙂

  31. am 8months pg n i realy hate
    am 8months pg n i realy hate sex and caressing for this whole period…could it b a problem or
    will i get over it after delivery?

    1. Hi Lindsy,

      Hi Lindsy,
      it can absolutely be related to your pregnancy. If it doesn’t get better after your delivery, it might be good to discuss this with your doctor.

  32. I have the same problem
    I have the same problem hopeful by following those steps I can be in a better position.

  33. wen havin sex..ijus take
    wen havin sex..ijus take 40min 4da 1st shot…en ijus take almost 2gud hrs 4da sec shot is ths normal…en my chics never withstand wid my last!!it forces me stop widout.cumin..en thea afta they beg t nxt tym..av never bin satisfyd..

    1. Hi Papi Boy,

      Hi Papi Boy,
      try lots and lots of foreplay, so you are very aroused when you start having intercourse. The more aroused you are, the faster you may come. Have you given that a try?

  34. I personally suffer da
    I personally suffer da problem

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      we hope this article helped you!

  35. during the monthly cycle of a
    during the monthly cycle of a lady when is it convinient for her to get pregnant upon penetration?

  36. I also have the same problem
    I also have the same problem/condition of P.E & this’s my 3rd year since i knew that i ejaculate prematurely. Can someone tell me the drugs that i should buy in the chemist coz i have no money to see a doctor.
    Thanks in advance as i wait for your replies.

    1. Dear Thomas,

      Dear Thomas,
      please do not buy any drugs without talking to a doctor first, because that could seriously harm you.
      It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
      Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
      Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
      Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
      Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
      If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
      You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.

  37. I handle them bt they do not
    I handle them bt they do not love me they insult help me what can i do to love plz

    1. So sorry to hear that!

      So sorry to hear that!
      Just be patient, it will all work out in the end!

    2. i feel sorry for you, bt see
      i feel sorry for you, bt see a doc first

  38. Hi! my girlfriend is often
    Hi! my girlfriend is often satisfied with my sex skills. However, I often erect anyhow and when it occurs, it takes long to calm down. This happens when I’m alone. what do I do.

    1. Bernard,

      Bernard,
      That’s totally normal, especially when you are young.
      You can try masturbating, or thinking of other things to distract you from your erection.

  39. this article is nyc n
    this article is nyc n motivating

    1. That’s great to hear.
      That’s great to hear.

  40. Mhh…. i also av a PE
    Mhh…. i also av a PE problem….. its a year now…….. i just ejaculate b4 penetration…. and that is enough….. am stressed up with this situation…..

    1. Was the article an
      Was the article an inspiration to see a doctor?
      You could also try masturbating before intercourse, that takes the first edge off.

  41. what if am overweight and i
    what if am overweight and i exprience PE ?

    1. Being overweight is more
      Being overweight is more associated with erectile dysfunction, rather than PaE

  42. wen am with a woman,i tend 2
    wen am with a woman,i tend 2 sublime in my pants.is it normal realy!(nt ejaculating bt sum sticky clear liquid)

    1. Hey there,

      Hey there,
      It’s normal that there is some fluid around the penis when you are aroused. Is it a lot or a bit?

  43. I have a problem with my
    I have a problem with my penis I feel like scratching the urethra and sometimes I see some purse coming out what might be the problem pliz help I fear it might be an std /sti does it have any serious effects such as being infertile or poor performance in bed? pliz help thank you.

    1. Peter,

      Peter,
      Pus is never a good sign. Please see a doctor about it, because, yes, if left untreated, an STD can have serious effects on your body.

  44. I have read here you saying
    I have read here you saying that masturbating is ok bt am worried I started masturbating while I was in primary to date I even prefer having it than having sex what should I do am worried. .

    1. Peter,

      Peter,
      It is indeed totally okay to masturbate.
      The reason why you may prefer it is that you have gotten so used to the way you do it is that you can’t enjoy the attention your partner gives you.
      Try to talk to your partner and show her what you like, sex is about communication as much as it is about the actual act.

  45. i always have sexual urge
    i always have sexual urge especialy when i see a woman. i cant even control it untill i masturbate, what could be the reason

    1. Daniel,

      Daniel,
      That’s totally normal, especially if you are young and haven’t had a lot of sex yet. Don’t worry!

  46. I can make love even for 30
    I can make love even for 30 minutes without ejaculating. is this normal still?

    1. Yeah, that’s fine, Tony.

      Yeah, that’s fine, Tony.
      If it’s too long for you or your partner, try to have more foreplay, so you are very aroused when you start having intercourse.

  47. thank you for your advice I
    thank you for your advice I love u…

  48. what brings bad oduor and how
    what brings bad oduor and how can i end it during sex?

    1. Do you mean bad odor during
      Do you mean bad odor during sex or in general?

  49. Hi

    Hi
    This has been disturbing me a lot!
    when I have sex with my boyfriend, I occasionally experience pain accompanied with urinary incontinence after two to three days, what could be the problem?

    1. Shiko,

      Shiko,
      It could be an infection. Not necessarily an STD, but maybe a urinary tract infection. It would be best if you saw a doctor about it.

  50. Hi

    Hi
    I have a problem, my long term girlfriend isn’t good in communication, we are long distanced and sometimes she ignores me and does not even reply to my texts, whenever am with her she seems so much interest but once I leave the same applies, she isn’t so open to me and has less to say to me, what should I do.

    1. Michael,

      Michael,
      have you ever discussed this with her and explained to her how it makes you feel when she ignores you like that?

  51. how many tymz do a gal needz
    how many tymz do a gal needz to orgasm b4 i climax?

    1. That depends. How often do
      That depends. How often do you want her to climax? How often does she want to orgasm?

  52. is there a medicine you can
    is there a medicine you can suggest that can control or cure PE..?

  53. All these articole that am
    All these articole that am reading here at love matters wall they dont show nor tell the sollution of PE ,all these guys jst tell their story or talking to therapist or visiting the doc bt they dnt say how they were treated or wat they did to stop them from caming to to queckly that y everyone is asking question on coments

  54. Hi,i need yo help,after
    Hi,i need yo help,after having sex for like 20minutes and then it erects again,i experience alot of pain inside. whats the problem?

    1. It could be that you are
      It could be that you are having painful refractory periods. That’s the time your body needs to recovery between two erections. Give yourself more time. If that doesn’t help, please see a doctor.

  55. Can PE impregnate a woman?
    Can PE impregnate a woman?

    1. Semen impregnates women, not
      Semen impregnates women, not matter whether it’s premature or late, or happened outside of the body but got into the vagina.

  56. I suffer p.e. I’ve read the
    I suffer p.e. I’ve read the article and been trying to practice it but its persistent. how do I boost myself up?

  57. Most of man don’t want to
    Most of man don’t want to talk about it

    1. That’s very true! Do you
      That’s very true! Do you think you can guess why?

  58. I need a doctor because of…
    I need a doctor because of pe
    I mean premature ejaculation
    Where I can find a doctor in nairobi

    1. Hey Arid, there are a few…

      Hey Arid, there are a few things you can do to try and address premature ejaculation before consulting a doctor. In some cases you may not even need to see a doctor. A good place to start is by finding out what could be causing it. Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and as the young man gains more experience he is able to better control ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information on how to address premature ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  59. You talk about smoking being…
    You talk about smoking being one of the course of PE yet weed makes you harder nd last long in bed.
    Can I know there please, ama weed ni exempt from the smoke ?

    1. Hello Wesley, thank you for…

      Hello Wesley, thank you for sharing. Tobacco has the effect of narrowing veins which in turn has an effect on the delivery of blood. As you know the penis is basically a blood sponge. Studies have also found that marijuana can have the same effect. However, it is clear from your experience that that is not the case for you.

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