Pregnant or not?
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Am I pregnant?

If you’ve had sex without using a contraceptive, there’s a chance you could be pregnant. How can you find out if you’re pregnant? And what can you do if you are?


  • Have you used a condom that has torn?
  • Are you on the pill, but you’ve forgotten to take it?
  • Are you on the pill and you’ve taken antibiotics?
  • Are you on the pill, and you’ve vomited or had diarrhoea within four hours of taking it?
  • If you’ve had sex and the answer to any of these questions is ‘yes’, there’s a chance you could be pregnant.

If you want to be pregnant: wait and see if you’re in luck! You can buy a pregnancy test from the chemist or drug store.

I am pregnant – now what?

If you were planning to get pregnant – congratulations! Head over to our section on pregnancy where you can find detailed information about what to expect.

For many people, though, pregnancy can come as a surprise. It’s easy to forget about the condom in the heat of the moment. Even if you use contraception perfectly, sometimes it just doesn’t work.

Either way, if you unintentionally get pregnant, you need to decide on what to do.

There are three options:

  • You could keep the baby.
  • You could deliver the baby and give it up for adoption, or to a family member.
  • You could have the pregnancy terminated (an abortion).

Whatever you decide, you need to think carefully about the next steps. Talk to someone you trust. Someone who can give you advice and support; preferably an adult such as your mother, an aunt, a friend, your partner, or your doctor. Someone who won’t judge you for the choices you ultimately make. In the end, you’re the one who has to make the decision.

It’s always best to talk your decision through with someone you trust. The surer you are of your decision, the better you will feel afterwards. Make sure you are the one who makes the final decision, and do not settle for anything less. Don’t let anyone pressure you into a decision you don’t feel comfortable with.

Keep the baby

You could decide to keep the baby. This means thinking about the future: what will you have to put into place to ensure you can take care of a dependent? Do you have a plan and a social support system for instance from the baby’s father, or from family? What are the short-, mid-, and long-term implications to your life and plans? What about your education and career? Will you have enough support – from the baby’s father, or your family? Will you have enough resources to live on? If you have a partner, what do they think? Do they want to keep the child? How many children do you have already? Is it safe to have another? Is the foetus healthy? Are you healthy?

And the most important question: do you want this child?

Give the baby up for adoption

You could also have the baby adopted. Again, you need to think carefully, considering all your options. If you decide to take this option, how will you find someone to adopt your child?

You could contact an official adoption agency and have your child safely and legally adopted through the state. They will then take you through the process and explain what happens in adoption cases. They will ask you to sign a consent form and arrange a suitable plan for how you can get the baby to them once it is born. In most cases adoption centres can make arrangements for you to leave the baby at the hospital, where they will collect it.

If you’re still very young and you live with your family, it helps if you can be honest with your parents. As a minor, you may be limited in some of the options you can consider. They may want to help raise the child or, if not, perhaps they can help you decide what to do. If it’s difficult to tell them, perhaps another family member or family friend could help you break the news.

Under no circumstances should you just abandon a child. Doing this is illegal and it is always better to leave a child with a hospital, adoption agency, or church, so the child can be taken care of.

End the pregnancy (abortion)

The third option is to have an abortion. Like the others, this is not an easy decision to make, and you may need some time to think it over. But don’t let anyone choose for you. This is about you, your body, and your choices, so in the end you have to decide for yourself. Read more about the different types of abortions.

Your decision

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. You should decide what feels right for you. If you’re really struggling, try talking through your options with someone you trust.


In the morning I had my testa positive the following day I tested in afternoon and it was negative but I not seen my periods 8days passed on it

Hello Nyt, What test did you take? Blood tests are usually more accurate than urine tests. Visit a medical centre to have a blood test done. Missing your periods is however one sign that you could be pregnant.

I as a person overwork myself but ever since i got pregnant, i cannot do as much work as i normally do. I tend to vomit after eating the food i love like fruits, eggs, cakes, and many others.

Hi Diana, This is expected because of the changes that are going on in your body. Perhaps you could try eating smaller portions of meals more regularly. If the meals cause you to vomit all the time maybe you could explore other alternatives, what's important is to keep healthy by eating well. We wish you well in your journey.

Early signs of pregnancy include:- Tender, swollen breast Fatigue Slight bleeding Nausea with or without vomiting Food cravings Headaches Constipation Mood swings among others. A missed period can also be a sign you could be pregnant. You can take a test to determine if you are or you are not pregnant. Check out the following article for more information.

Hi Petty, The best way to determine if you are pregnant is to get a pregnancy test. You could do a home urine test or visit a medical centre for a test. The signs that one person experiences may not be the same as what you will experience. Get a test to be sure.

Hi Mary, First, it depends on why you are having the cramps or lower abdominal pains. If it is a result of mensuration then your are not likely to be pregnant when menstruating but there is a small chance. You are likely to get pregnant if you have sex when you are ovulating or just about to. Check out the following article for more tips.

Hi I have skipped my period for 38days i had a depo injection before and during those days my periods were regular.I was involved in food poisoning late may this year had my period on june and from there I have never had my period breast are tender,bloating and feel nausea alot what could be the problem

Hi Lisa, If you do not feel like you want the baby at this point you can consider carrying the pregnancy to term and then give up the baby for adoption. Visit a Marie Stopes Centre nearest or call the Marie Stopes toll free number 0800720005 to further discuss these options with you.

I was pregnant before and I had a discourage after recovering I was injected a family planing then after 3 months I got my period and failed to come the following month and came again the next month and right now I have a big belly but the test always show negative

Hi daisy,av missed my periods for about one month and no sign of pregnancy.plz advice since I wish I could be pregnant

Hi Susy, have you do a pregnancy test? No everyone will present in the same way after pregnancy. Do take a pregnancy test to get to know if you are pregnant. If you have not been trying for more than 6 months then keep trying it may take longer perhaps a few months before you get pregnant. Check out this article;-
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Hello,am having a problem,I missed my periods,It's one month now,the only sign am experiencing is my breast becoming heavy each night and arching in the armpits,plz advice.

Hello Millicent, Those two signs - a missed period and bigger breast - are some of the early signs of pregnancy. Take a pregnancy test to be certain. You can take a home pregnancy test or visit a medical centre to have one done. Check out this article;-

Hi Pat, Counting safe days is one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, as menstrual cycles change constantly. So unless you have an extremely regular cycle, or use ovulation tests, you really can't know for sure when your safe days are. So, yes you can get pregnant. Check out this article;-

Hey, Everyone respond to changes that come with being pregnant physical, emotional and hormonal. During pregnancy one may experience heightened emotions, both positive and negative. Others feel more depressed or anxious. These drastic and sometimes extreme changes in emotions is what is referred to mood swings. Many pregnant women find that these emotions appear around week 6 to 10, they ease in the second trimester, and then reappear as the due date approaches.

I have not received my periods... I feel nausea but I used condom. Could I be pregnant? If so how do I abort it without surgery? Plz help

Lynee, It is really not possible to tell what could be going on. Since it has been longer than 6 months you need to visit a specialist, a Gynecologist who will carry out tests and be able to advice you and your partner. We wish you well. Check out this article;-

Hi Nicole, Other than pregnancy there are other causes of a delayed period including; excessive weight loss or gain, low body weight is also a common cause of missed or irregular periods, eating disorders, increased exercise, emotional stress, illness, travel, Medicines such as birth control methods, which may cause lighter, less frequent, more frequent, or skipped periods or no periods at all, hormone problems and changes.

Hi...I just had sex from..1st this month....feeling tired every since 14 I have been having spotting.....could I be pregnant because my days are not yet..please help

Hi,I had slight bleeding ,abdominal pain some headach but after 3weeks I heard athing coming out from ma stomach and I went to the toilet but thing had shining and looked like achickenliver ,what was that ? but that was my first day to play sex.
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