Do condoms kill the mood?

Sex often includes awkward and funny moments – but this is all a normal part of it! There’s no need to be embarrassed or ashamed!

First let’s be honest, putting a condom before sex is not only awkward but can slow things down thus killing the mood a bit: the trick is to put on the condom more quickly and smoothly.

Some people don’t like using condoms because to them, they kill the mood. But that doesn’t have to be the case. Putting on a condom can be part of foreplay, and you can help your partner put it on. Stroke the penis and then roll it on. Or if you’re more adventurous, use your mouth. To do this, place the condom over the head of the penis with your hands, and then use your lips to roll it over the shaft. You can use your hands to help if it’s too difficult. If you do this, he is unlikely to object to using a condom ever again!

Some women have even mastered the art of putting a condom between their breasts and having their man thrust his way into the pre-warmed condom. That must take some serious skill though. Who’s up for the challenge?

Some guys find it hard to keep an erection once a condom is on. If that’s the case, try not to interrupt foreplay with condom-fumbling. Instead, make putting on a condom part of foreplay, or at least continue kissing and stroking each other while putting on a condom. It takes some skills, but learning them will pay off!

Also, you might want to try different brands and sizes to find a condom that fits well and feels good. Because a good feeling is what sex is all about!

The guys can also practice getting used to the feeling, like masturbating with a condom. And finally, stop worrying about it – it’s hard to keep an erection if you’re worried about going soft. So focus on the good stuff and enjoy the moment.

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