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How to work towards a better sex life

Better sex
Whether you’ve been with someone a long time or are just hooking up, it’s good to be able to talk about sex. At some point, we all want to try new things or get a little bored with the same routine. So start the conversation. Even small changes can result in huge pleasures!
  • First, think about what you like about your partner. Are they great kissers? Are they natural talents when it comes to oral sex? Begin by emphasizing what they do well before making a suggestion to take things to the next level. For example:

‘I really like it when you kiss me. Maybe you can also try some of that action on my neck?’

 ‘You’re so good at going down on me, but tonight I was thinking it would be fun to…’

  • Take your time. Don’t fire all your ideas or complaints at your partner at once. Feed them little by little. That way you can try them out together and see which ones work best for both of you. Plus you never know what new and exciting frontiers the two of you may discover in the process.
  • When it comes to being more adventurous, take it step-by-step. You could suggest tickling your partner with a feather, and then if you both enjoy that, maybe suggest a blindfold next time. Always check that your partner is happy with what’s going on.
  • When talking to your partner about changes in the bedroom, think about how you would like your partner to suggest such changes. What would be the best way to speak to you without you feeling hurt or confused?
  • Suggest areas you could work on together. For example, start a conversation with ‘I was thinking that together we could try…’
  • Find out if your partner is happy with what you are doing and give them the space to suggest new things. For example:

‘What do you enjoy the most when we’re having sex?’

“Would you like it if I….’

‘Do you have any ideas for things we can do differently?’

  • Be their guide. Your partner cannot read minds and so won’t know exactly what turns you on. So help them by really showing them. For example, guide their hands and mouths to those extra special spots. And give them the opportunity to do the same.

‘I really like it when you touch me. It would be even better if you did it softer/harder/slower.’