All over the world people have different ideas and opinions about virginity and the hymen. They vary a lot depending on the country, culture, or religion. Sometimes it can be hard to know what to think yourself. Learn the difference of fact and fiction here.


Pink lock on pink door representing the hymen and virginity

The hymen: what is it?

When people talk about being a virgin or keeping their virginity, they are talking about people who have never had sex. For many, the way to ‘prove’ that a woman has never had sex is by looking at her hymen.
Confused young man with upset young woman in the background

Is my partner a virgin?

Many people think that you can tell whether someone is a virgin or not. However, this is a myth. The only way to know if someone is a virgin is by asking them!
Young Couple thinking about first time sex

First time sex: what to expect

When people talk about the ‘first time’, they usually mean the first time you have full intercourse. That’s what people mean by ‘losing your virginity’.
Couple happily cuddling in bed together

Outercourse: sex without penetration

Outercourse can mean different things to different people. Some people consider outercourse as any sex play without sexual intercourse, where a man inserts his penis into a woman’s vagina.