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Is my partner a virgin?

Many people think that you can tell whether someone is a virgin or not. However, this is a myth. The only way to know if someone is a virgin is by asking them!

If you do not trust their answer, then you might have bigger relationships problems. Trust is a key factor to a healthy and happy relationship.

‘You can tell from a woman’s hymen whether she’s a virgin or not.’
Not even an experienced doctor can tell for sure if a woman is a virgin by looking at her hymen or vagina.

‘A man can feel if a woman is still a virgin.’
Men who say they can feel if a woman is a virgin don’t know what they’re talking about. If a doctor can hardly ever tell for sure whether a woman is a virgin or not, there’s no way a man could really be able to feel it.
During sex, a man can tell if a woman is tense. If a woman is nervous or scared, she unconsciously tenses her vagina. This makes the opening of the vagina feel tight.

How can I prove I’m a virgin?

You can't really. Even for experienced doctors, it can be impossible to tell for sure whether or not a woman has had a penis in her vagina. But sometimes, for one reason or another, a woman’s prospective in-laws doubt that she’s a virgin. And some doctors don’t even mind selling ‘virginity certificates’. But while those certificates can save some trouble, they aren't proof that someone is a virgin.


Hi Yvonne, First not all ladies will feel pain during the first time they have intercourse, one because they hymen which is the thick skin covering part of the vaginal opening may already have been stretched and also if she has been well prepared meaning the vagina is wet enough and she is relaxed, it makes penetration is easier and enjoyable for both partners. Many ladies will be ready to have sex again on the same occasion meaning they are able to move past what was the pain but if one is uncomfortable it is best to wait until they feel ready. Check the following article for more information;-

Hi Shiks, virginity is considered broken or lost when one breaks the hymen through penetration by the penis. However the Hymen which is a thin membrane inside the vagina can be broken through different ways like, vigorous exercise, bike riding, swimming among other ways. Find out some more here .
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