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Ejaculation

If you get really aroused, you have an orgasm or ‘come’. When you have an orgasm, you ejaculate – semen comes out of your penis.

Semen and sperm – what’s the difference?

Semen is the liquid that comes out when you ejaculate. It is a sticky white liquid that contains millions of tiny sperm cells. Each healthy sperm cell is able to fertilise an egg. Sperm can live for three to five days after ejaculation in the vagina. Some sperm has lived up to eight days after ejaculation.

First ejaculation

Some time between the ages of about 11 and 16, you may have your first ejaculation. This means a sticky white fluid called semen comes out of your penis.

Your first ejaculation can happen when you’re asleep – people often call this a ‘wet dream’. It could also happen when you masturbate or when you make love with someone.

No two men are the same. This means some men have their first ejaculation when they’re 11, while others have it when they’re 16.

Wet dreams

A wet dream is when you ejaculate in your sleep. When you wake up and feel the damp patch on your bed, you might think you’ve peed on your bed. But in fact, you’ve just ejaculated semen during your sleep. Often you can have a wet dream without even dreaming about sex.

How much do you ejaculate?

As you go through puberty, the amount of semen you ejaculate tends to increase and change in texture and quantity.

First ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 0.5 millilitres 
  • Colour and texture: clear, jelly-like
  • Average amount of sperm: little sperm – less than a million per millilitre

Six months after your first ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 1 millilitre
  • Colour and texture: clear, jelly-like
  • Average amount of sperm: 20 million sperm per millilitre

One year after your first ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 2.5 millilitres
  • Colour and texture: clear or white jelly-like or sticky liquid
  • Average amount of sperm: 50 million sperm per millilitre

Two years after your first ejaculation – the same as an adult:

  • Average amount of semen: 3.5 millilitres
  • Colour and Texture: white sticky liquid
  • Average amount of sperm: 300 million sperm per millilitre

For the sake of comparison, a teaspoonful is 5 millilitres.

If my pee and semen come out from the same hole – does this mean my semen contains pee too?
No. It’s true that both pee and semen come out through the urethra opening. But the urethra is a tube with two branches, one that goes to the bladder and one that goes to the vas deferens. When the penis releases semen, a valve blocks the branch to the bladder so urine doesn’t escape too.

First ejaculation and pregnancy

In 90 per cent of men, when they ejaculate for the first time the semen doesn’t actually contain any sperm – the cells that fertilise an egg to get a girl pregnant. But… there’s no way to guarantee whether your first ejaculation will contain any sperm or not. So always use contraception when you have sex with a girl. The safest is to go ‘Double Dutch’ – wear a condom and use another form of contraception!

Did you know…?

In the early 20th century the British secret service discovered that semen made good invisible ink.

Each time you ejaculate, 200-500 million sperm are released.

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    2. i’m out of bed with my man…
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      1. Is masturbation good for…
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        1. Hi Francis, thank you for…

          Hi Francis, thank you for reaching out to us. You have asked such great questions. Masturbation good for your physical and sexual health. It’s a safe way to satisfy your sexual needs, even if you don’t have a partner. And if you are in a relationship, you can still masturbate to release some sexual tension. In general, you’ll realize that masturbating will help you to relax, become more concentrated and feel happier!

          This article has more information that you may find helpful

          https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-no-shame-in-a-good-thing

          In regards to your question about orgasms. It is not very clear but I assume you mean to ask how to last longer in bed.

          This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
          One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
          Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
           

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    1. Hi Willie, What you are…
      Hi Willie, What you are experiencing is known as delayed or retarded ejaculation, where it takes one more than 30 minutes to ejaculate (in some cases a person may not ejaculate at all) and it happens to most men from time to time. this maybe caused by a combination of physical and Psychological issues like anxiety or stress including the use of certain medication. If this is something happens all the time, you need to see a Doctor who will be able as need be refer you to a specialist.

      1. Could you please provide the…
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  6. I take 2min to enjuculate in…
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    1. Hi Franck, You take a…
      Hi Franck, You take a shorter time to ejaculate the first round perhaps because you get excited much quicker than in the second and this is normal. The amount of ejaculation is about a tea spoon and this carries hundreds of millions of sperms. Nothing says you are incapable of getting a woman pregnant.

  7. i used to masturbate for two…
    i used to masturbate for two years and i stoped it now for a year. i have ma first born 6 year now, i hv failed to impregnate my wife and even if i tryon other ladies, what medicine can i use please?

    1. Hi Charlie, There are many…
      Hi Charlie, There are many factors that determine whether your partner can get pregnant including whether she is fertile at the time you have sex, certain lifestyle choices on both your part and her’s, whether you or your partner have any fertility issues among others. Masturbation is not of the reasons that would stop you from getting your partner pregnant, as long as your reproductive organs are healthy you should be able to get your partner pregnant. If you have however been consistently trying to get your partner pregnant for more than a year it may be important for you both to visit a specialist. The specialist – Gynecologist – may conduct tests on both of you and advice based on the outcome. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

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  8. Does the first ejaculation…
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  10. I have been musturbating…
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    1. Hi Raphael, Thank you for…

      Hi Raphael, Thank you for the feedback. The more important question is what will get her to orgasm or ejaculate, especially because people are different. This also means there is no standard time for everyone, it is important to note that many times women take longer to orgasm than men. Have a look at this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/female-orgasms-top-five-facts

  12. I have been trying to make…
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  13. What commonly causes…
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    1. Hi Elvis, Premature…

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  14. Hi Love Matters, I ejaculate…
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    1. Hi Ken, What you are…

      Hi Ken, What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  15. How can I deal permanently…
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    1. Hi Steve, behaviour that has…

      Hi Steve, behaviour that has been learnt can also be unlearnt. Remember, premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate sooner than you wish or sooner that your partners wants you to. when masturbating the intention may not be to last long, but you can begin to try and last longer even when masturbating. Learn how your body responds and begin to learn to delay or control when you ejaculate. The change will not happen at once but with practice one is able to regain control.Check out the following article for more tips of what you can do to achieve this:- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  16. Hi, how much should i…
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      Hey Jos, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

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  19. I used to masturbate from…
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    1. Dear Dan, masturbation doesn…

      Dear Dan, masturbation doesn’t lead to infertility this is just a myth. As evidenced by your own experience, you already have one child. If you have however been trying to get your partner pregnant for longer than 12 months, it is important that you seek the advice of a Gynecologist together with your partner. They maybe able to conduct tests and advice you with a way forward. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

  20. Sometimes I am take long to…
    Sometimes I am take long to ejaculate why?

  21. How Ling should it take to…
    How Ling should it take to ejaculate during sex?

  22. What causes premature…
    What causes premature ejaculation?

  23. What do you do if you…
    What do you do if you ejaculate too fast?

    1. Hello, what you are…

      Hello, what you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that you will not perform can make you ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm. The following articles provide more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-factshttps://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  24. I ejaculate very first why?
    I ejaculate very first why?

    1. Hi there, what you are…

      Hi there, what you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  25. Can you get HIV if you don’t…
    Can you get HIV if you don’t ejaculate during sex?

    1. Hi Joe, if one has…

      Hi Joe, if one has unprotected sex with a person who is HIV positive they will be at a risk of getting HIV even if they do not ejaculate during sex. Remember, HIV passed through bodily fluids including vaginal fluids. If in doubt it is important to use a condom which when used correctly and each time one has sex will help prevent HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Infections. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis/hiv

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  27. I ejaculate soon after I…
    I ejaculate soon after I insert my penis, what is the problem? My gal complained about pain in her private part last time, what is the cause of the pain during love making?

    1. Hi Lawrence, what you are…
      Hi Lawrence, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
      On the other hand, pain can be by a number of reasons including dry sex and this is when penetration happens before the vagina is well lubricated. It can also be caused by an infection in the vagina and in some cases it may be the position used during sex. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

  28. Can viagra solve the problem…
    Can viagra solve the problem of ejaculation very fast when I am having sex? Is wet dreams normal for a man of 25?

    1. Hey Josh, Premature…

      Hey Josh, Premature Ejaculation is when a person ejaculates sooner than they want to. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. The reason that’s causing premature ejaculation determines what to do to address it. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Wet dreams are completely normal at that age, and they happen when one has sex dreams whether or not they have an erection. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/wet-dreams-are-they-normal

  29. If I had sex with a girl for…
    If I had sex with a girl for the first time and ejaculated almost immediately can a girl get pregnant?

  30. my girlfriend has never…
    my girlfriend has never orgasm when w have sex what should i do?

    1. Hi David, a girl is likely…

      Hi David, a girl is likely not to orgasm when having vaginal sex since it doesn’t give sufficient attention to one of the most sensitive parts – the clitoris. One would have to either stroke it with a finger or lick it, which gives it sufficient attention to get her to orgasm. More importantly though, is to talk with your partner about what they like and what will get them there. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  31. I need that information on…
    I need that information on how to keep your sperm healthy…

  32. How can you stop wet dreams?…
    How can you stop wet dreams? I wake up wet every morning why?

  33. I can only go for one shot…
    I can only go for one shot and it takes me 2 hours to get another erection. I am worried?

    1. Hey, It is completely normal…

      Hey, It is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs sometime. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  34. I ejaculate very fast wheb…
    I ejaculate very fast wheb having sex before my girlfriend is satisfied. How can I sustain for 30 minutes?

    1. Hi Devin, this means that…

      Hi Devin, this means that you get too excited too quickly and which makes it challenging for you to control your ejaculation. This is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and as one grows they may also gain more experience in controlling their ejaculation. It is important that you talk to your girlfriend and get to know what they like during sex as you also share what it is you like as well. Sex is better when partners communicate about it. Check out the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

       

  35. What medicine should I use…
    What medicine should I use to stay long during sex?

    1. Hi Christoph, before…

      Hi Christoph, before thinking about medicine it is important to think about what could be causing this also known as premature ejaculation especially if one ejaculates in less than two minutes during sex. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  36. Can a girl get pregnant if…
    Can a girl get pregnant if you are having sex for first time?

    1. Hi Eli, having unprotected…

      Hi Eli, having unprotected sex exposes one to the risk of getting pregnant and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). It for this reason important to use a prevention method like condoms which help prevent both unplanned pregnancies and STIs. Check out the following article for more tips on condom use;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/condom

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/types-of-birth-control/female-condom

  37. I am about to get to mid 20s…
    I am about to get to mid 20s butI still have wet dreams. Is this normal? Most of the time I don’t even think it had anything to do with a sexy dream? Advice.

  38. Is it okey to be in my mid…
    Is it okey to be in my mid 20s and still have wet dreams regularly? Most of the time I wake up surprised and I can’t even remember having a dream about sex. I have a girlfriend.

  39. I ejaculate too fast when I…
    I ejaculate too fast when I have sex. What can I do to stay longer?

    1. Hi Johanna, what you seem to…

      Hi Johanna, what you seem to be experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation. It means you usually get sexually excited too soon. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or even work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as one gets older and gain more experience, they also become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few other things one can do to overcome this, have a look at the following article for tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  40. I will be 18 this year,I do…
    I will be 18 this year,I do experience constant wetdream though I haven’t have sex before except once the onece is even 2 minutes.And I can have wet dream 3 to 4 times in a week is it normal?

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  42. I ejaculate very fast in sex…
    I ejaculate very fast in sex what is the problem plis?

    1. Hello Charlie, What you are…

      Hello Charlie, What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things you can do to overcome this, have a look at this article for some tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  43. I always ejaculate very fast…
    I always ejaculate very fast how can I stay long?

    1. Hello Filo, what you are…

      Hello Filo, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things you can do to overcome this, have a look at this article for some tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  44. What can you do if you…
    What can you do if you ejaculate very fast before inserting penis in vagina when you are still romancing each other?

    1. Hi Kenny, this means that…

      Hi Kenny, this means that you get too excited too quickly which leads to premature ejaculation. Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  45. I always ejaculate very fast…
    I always ejaculate very fast how can I stay long?

    1. Hey Filo, Hi there, what you…

      Hey Filo, Hi there, what you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

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  47. I’m new so I’m just going…
    I’m new so I’m just going through the conversation then know where you help definitely you can help me

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  48. My boyfriend take’s so long…
    My boyfriend take’s so long before he cums.what might be the problem??

    1. Hello Purie, how long is…

      Hello Purie, how long is long?

  49. You are really educative,…
    You are really educative, alot i didn’t know that im now learning, sexual life is complex

  50. Hello olado dennis, we are…

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  51. I like the site,it is…
    I like the site,it is sexually educative and and exposes youngsters to the functionality of their body. I will invite people to visit the site.

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  53. I’m Just glad hearing about…
    I’m Just glad hearing about this,may God bless you people

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  54. Hey Mr,am 22 now, everytime…
    Hey Mr,am 22 now, everytime after my first ejaculation my penis shrinks and so have to relax out a few minutes to get up again,is it normal?

  55. Hi Bonnie, thank you for…

    Hi Bonnie, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. It is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, this is just your body’s way of telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If yo8u are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again and continue. 

  56. The site is so nice mostly…
    The site is so nice mostly for mens

    1. Hi Kensei, thank you for…

      Hi Kensei, thank you for reaching out to us and for giving us your feedback. We try very hard to make our site friendly to people of all identities. If you do not feel it is well balanced please give us suggestions on how we can make it better.

  57. it is possible for a boy of…
    it is possible for a boy of 16 that do not release sperm until he have sex

  58. Hello Afeez, thank you for…

    Hello Afeez, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. You can still experience an ejaculation through masturbation.

  59. Ejaculating semen that is…
    Ejaculating semen that is mixed up with blood is that normal,??!

    1. Hello Dennis, thank you for…

      Hello Dennis, thank you for reaching out to us. Blood in the semen is not normal and you should try to see a medical practitioner as soon as you can for help and advice on the way forward.

  60. Hi, um I have a friend who i…
    Hi, um I have a friend who i think might have a problem. He told me the other day that he has secretly been smoking methamphetamines. 6 months later…its developed into a double addiction of smoking meth and then masturbatory…a lot…for a long time. He told me his record for most wanks in a day was 21…21 wanks. His record for longest wank times…32 hours..STRAIGHT. its all he ever does, when I stay over at his house he sneaks off to the toilet A LOT and at night when he thinks ive fallen asleep.. he starts up and then he doesn’t stop until I start pretending to wake up in the morning. Also, he’s constantly so horny that i think he wants to fuck me and I think he’s gonna try ask to fuck me soon.. what I do?

    1. Hi Amphwankking, 

      So sorry…

      Hi Amphwankking, 

      So sorry to hear about your friend. It seems that he is going through a lot psychologically and it may be that he is taking drugs and masturbating a lot to escape from what he is going through. Maybe try asking him how he is doing? It may be that he will open up to you. But to be honest, your friend needs both counselling and rehabilitation services since his problems seem deep. Encourage him to seek professional help since this will ensure that he lives a healthy life all-round. 

    1. Hi Ismael, 

      You’re welcome…

      Hi Ismael, 

      You’re welcome Ismael. Glad you learnt something new! Keep visiting Love Matters for more informative content. 

  61. Does the size of penis…
    Does the size of penis affects fertility?

    1. Hi Nicoo, 

      No. Penis size…

      Hi Nicoo, 

      No. Penis size does not affect fertility in any way. Men with various penis sizes are can all become fathers.

  62. Never made many girl cum &…
    Never made many girl cum & climax!

    Any assistance?

    1. Hi Kalyango, 

      You are not…

      Hi Kalyango, 

      You are not alone! Some men share your concerns. For most women, intercourse alone isn’t enough to trigger an orgasm. This is because the vagina is relatively insensitive, and the penis going in and out of the vagina doesn’t usually stimulate the clitoris – the most sensitive part.

      She’s more likely to have an orgasm if you make sure the clitoris is part of your lovemaking, for example by rubbing it with a finger or licking. The secret to this is knowing how to stimulate her sweet spots, take time to learn what turns her on. You can ask her what she likes. Don’t forget to spend more time on foreplay and use the best sexual positions for female orgasm e.g. women on top. Read this article to learn more: All you need to know about female orgasm

  63. Thanks for your sexual…
    Thanks for your sexual teachings, learn more

    1. Hi Ben, 

      Great to know!…

      Hi Ben, 

      Great to know! Keep it here for more informative content!

  64. Have learned something new!
    Have learned something new!

    1. Great to know! Keep it here…

      Great to know! Keep it here for more informative content!

  65. I watched porn and…
    I watched porn and masturbated for long time, at first my sperm could travel very far but now just under my feet and I feel the same during sex. What should I do to correct it please?

    1. Hi Boush, 

      Mhhh, while it…

      Hi Boush, 

      Mhhh, while it seems that you believe that masturbation affected the amount of your semen. However, this has not been proven to be true. Other factors such as drug use, extreme stress, alcohol, and smoking can affect the amount of semen you ejaculate.  Note that the amount of semen (the fluid that contains sperm) and sperm motility (ability to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80. It could be that the chances of the amount of sperm are due to aging. Yet, if you have concerns, go to the hospital for tests and treatment. 

  66. i am only 13 and evey other…
    i am only 13 and evey other nigt that stuff comes out it is wierd please help

    1. Hi Jeremiah, 

      No need to…

      Hi Jeremiah, 

      No need to worry at all! This is totally normal! It shows that you are well into your puberty where you begin to have wet dreams. Wet dreams is when you ejaculate in your sleep. Read this article to find out more about wet dreams: Are wet dreams normal? and this to learn more about more changes you can expect: Puberty in boys: what to expect. Welcome to puberty! 

  67. I have been having sex for a…
    I have been having sex for a week,but it has been hard for t ejaculate

    1. Hi Diaz, 

      Does that mean…

      Hi Diaz, 

      Does that mean that it takes longer for you to ejaculate? Or that you do not ejaculate at all? Either way, I advise you to visit the hospital for medical attention. 

       

  68. After ejaculation some people continue having s*x how

    1. Hi there,

      The penis may be able to come more than once in a single session. Just like how women can have multiple orgasms. Some people may be able to come more often than that in a session. Of course, you may notice that each subsequent ejaculation produces less semen.

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